How can I rebuild trust after pornography damaged our relationship?

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Im trying too save a relationship that I've screwed up by watching porn. I really really love this woman and I've lost her trust. How can I save the relationship

What you want is irrelevant its what she wants that matters and btw when the trust is gone its often impossible to earn it back.

If you like to watch porn that won’t go away. An ex tried to get me to stop so I did but then what was a few lazy tugs a week became bigger and bigger. Being denied made it more and more alluring and changed it from something I did out of boredom into an obsession.

Hi OP.
If you decide to come back you should try to articulate why she didn't like you watching porn and why you need to "earn trust back"
A lot of relationships have one or the other watching porn now and again , it's not usually a deal breaker.
What has happened that you feel the need to earn trust back?
You have been deliberately obtuse and vague when asked.

You haven't given us much information to go on.

Are you addicted to porn? Has it... is it.... impacting your sex life with your partner to the extent that you prefer it to her?

Does it satisfy you in a way that real sex with another human being doesn't?

Are you an occasional user but your partner hates porn, has discovered you use it now and then and has left you without much discussion?

What exactly has happened?

If you're using it and it's affected.. affecting.... your sex life so badly that it's become all-consuming, then you need counselling.... alone... and possibly at some point together. You need to speak with her and tell her that you plan to get help, that you'll understand if it's too late for her, but that you still love her and want to make things right.

Then seek out an expert counsellor and commit to the process.

Then give her time.