How do I move on when he says I am difficult?

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He said im imtolerable im difficult im a pain in the ass i keep dreaming about him i miss us being close he blames me for everything he dosent love me i cant let go of all the bad things that have happened im trapped in the past ive got a counclor ive got a social worker trying to help me

OP having read your previous posts, you need to move out of his house and stop this. He is abusive because he doesn't want you there. Can your social worker help you find some sort of supported living accommodation?

Agree with above. You need to find alternative housing especially since the house is being sold. Concentrate on where YOU will live.

He just says enough i said i wish id never gone to codys

I really wish you’d get the help you need. I’m not sure the current therapist is doing the best job.

The man doesn't want you, and you do sound like a hard work, move out of his house and move on with your life.
Get some good therapy.

Sorry to be blunt.

I’m not hard work it’s him he has no tolerance for me and I can’t just move out just cause I have feelings and express them

I’ve spoken to ther people and they have said it sounds like him

Good god op give the fuck up on this joke of a relationship

What do you mean you can’t move out

I haven’t read your previous posts but it’s clear that you’re not compatible. It’s ok for you to express your feelings and it’s ok for him not to like it. You need to move out and move on, so you can be with someone who loves you for being you. It’s hard when the person you want to be with doesn’t want to be with you but you can’t make anyone love you. Chasing after the impossible will make you miserable. It’s not working OP, you have to face up to it and move on.

No, he’s right and you are hard work. You know that, you’ve said so hundreds of times over tens of threads over years. Move out.

You are hard work. It's not him, it's you.

That’s rubbish he knew when he married me I talk a lot some people do it is him

I spoke to a lovely girl who said she talks a lot too it’s not a reason for a divorce as he said I’m trying to get the social worker to help me find a place to live

Why are you posting? You don't seem to want any advice.

That’s rubbish he knew when he married me I talk a lot some people do it is him
He doesn't want to be married to you any more.

He has the right to not want to be with you though. It sounds like he wants out. You cant force him to stay with you.

Whether you agree with his opinion or not is really unimportant. If he doesn’t want to be with you then the relationship is over. Why are you doing a one person battle?

Op he doesn't want to be with you, listen to you, talk to you or clean your shit off the floor. It's over

I’ve been posting for support it’s not me he once sald I spoke for twelve hours he s makes things up no one can talk for that long non stop even if I did he should have walked out the house

How would you feel if you'd told your partner you wanted to split and they just refused to accept it?

He doesn't want a relationship and you need to be proactive in finding somewhere to stay. Even if it's just temporarily.

It doesnt actually matter whether its you or him.
He doesnt want to be with you
You cant compel someone to stay in a relationship they dont want to be in. Surely you can see that?

I feel very sad for this poster.
She is clearly not getting enough support in real life. The marriage has been over for a long time, she should be in supported accommodation by now.
It is very repetitive - something about she regrets going to Cody - her mind is stuck in a loop.
What the husband is up to I have no idea. If he wants to leave he needs to leave.

OP, You don’t post for advice. Are you posting just to vent. Is your MH such that you can’t even engage with us?

This has got nothing to do with your husband. You are not in a fit state to have a relationship.

Who is to blame is totally irrelevant.

Can you understand how your threads effect us?We want you to leave him, we want you to be well. We are all giving you good advice.

Can you post about something else?

If you were talking for 12 hours non stop why should he have to leave the house?
If a man were doing that and his wife posted on here, the advice would be that the talker needed to leave.
How are things with your mum?
How are things with your daughter?

It’s the same man who you said signed divorce papers a few years ago?