Ex refused to collect my medication after I changed back to my maiden name

[Pharmacyproblem]

I'm getting divorced from a man who has been financial and emotionally abusive. As part of that I chose to revert to my maiden name (which feels brilliant).

I didn't tell him because I knew he'd get very angry and I was scared of the fallout.

Last Friday he was near the GP surgery and I asked him to pick up my repeat medication. Obviously it's always important to take your medication as prescribed, but if I miss more than one dose I become very unwell and vomit until my serum level returns to baseline again. It can also seriously destabilise a serious illness.

Anyway he came back and I asked for them. He said as they were listed in my maiden name he would not pick them up and never would unless they were in my married name.

It was Friday. I would have to ask 111 for help as the surgery was closing.

In the end an unbelievably lovely reception lady stayed thirty minutes late so I could pick them up.

I'm devastated that he would do this to me.

She said in her first post that he’s been emotionally and financially abusive. She said she is frightened of him. It doesn’t take much critical thinking to work out she therefore is vulnerable at the moment and probably has very skewed boundaries about what is and isn’t normal when it comes to navigating relationships. Calling her lazy and using the tone you have is so unnecessary and unkind.

I have to agree with others that it was a really strange thing to do- asking an ex to run errands for you ( especially for something important like medication).

Sorry this happened OP but it’s best if you don’t ask him for anything any more.
I know I felt much better when I told myself not to expect anything from my ex, then I couldn’t be disappointed.
All the best for your independent life ahead x

I’m still confused as to how he knew you had changed your name, if the surgery told him that information there is a problem.

She said in her first post that he’s been emotionally and financially abusive.

Exactly, so why ask him to run an errand?! for medication she so desperately needs that another person had to work for an extra half hour so the OP could get it.

Its common sense. Its the OP who is lacking critical thinking.

Absolutely no offence intended to you, but why should he? You're divorcing him, quite rightly, so why are you expecting him to run about for you? You want nothing to do with this man, so you can't have it both ways.

It’s quite common for people who have been in abusive relationships to have really misguided / poor boundaries and expectations when it comes to relationship dynamics, with friends, family and their exes.

I’m not sure what you’re getting out of speaking so spitefully about someone like OP who has said she is struggling at the moment so I’ll leave it there.

She said she knew he’d be angry about changing her name.

she said she was scared for the fall out.

she sent him on an errand where he would find out.

the fall out was that he didn’t collect it.

she got angry at him for behaving the way she predicted.