A woman called me too cute what does this mean.

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Keep in mind we are in late 30s….a woman I like (I am male) we have been friends for a while but often wondered if there is more. I’m terrible at reading her. We make each other laugh a lot and recently she said ‘you are too cute’

women on here please what’s your read on this? I don’t won’t to be her big cuddly teddy bear cute…..unsure what she meant.

I would read it as gently patronising. Not a sign they fancy you.

Great.

Honestly, ‘too cute’ could mean a lot of things and you’ll drive yourself mad trying to decode it. What matters more is that you already like her, you get on well, and you’re wondering about more. Life’s too short to stay stuck in guessing mode, just ask her out. Worst case, you get clarity and keep a good friendship. Best case, it’s mutual and you stop wondering.
At your age and stage, you don’t really need to analyse every phrase like ‘too cute.’ You already know you enjoy each other’s company and there’s chemistry in the friendship. If you’re genuinely interested, the only way to know if there’s more is to ask her out directly. Otherwise you’re just staying in uncertainty.

The key point: “too cute” isn’t the answer her response to a clear, simple invitation is.

To me it comes across as saying you're sweet looking and masculine. Sometimes like when people saying you're roo good looking for me type of thing? Maybe just ask her. Hope you get to the bottom of it. It's obviously playing on your mind. People say strange things sometimes!

it's hard to say without knowing her general manner & style of speech, but personally when i was single i would never have called a man cute to his face unless I was signalling interest in him! You won't get a reliable answer on a forum of people who don't know her, but definitely don't rule out interest on her part because of things said here.

Thanks all.

This.

It's the sort of thing you'd say to a kid or about a puppy. i wouldnt interpret it as a burning desire to get into your y-fronts.

If you are interested in her, ask her out. If she says yes, great. If she says no, respect that.

What was the context? What had you said or done to invoke that response from her? Were you flirting with each other? Had you just paid her a compliment?

Context is relevant. If it was when you were having a laugh her saying you are ‘too cute’ is like saying ‘oh you are too much’ or ‘oh you are just too funny’ ha ha ha. If you did something that she found off putting/crude etc she might say ‘that wasn’t too cute’ to mean it wasn’t acceptable.
It certainly doesn’t mean ‘I find you devastatingly attractive’!

Don't do anything for at least 6 mo, even if she moves towards you herself. You will very likely destroy the friendship with this eventually. And anyway, it's not ethical to take advantage of a lonely and distressed woman.

But do you REALLY value the friendship? To test that, think how you would feel about her getting together with another guy. Are you going to feel angry? If so, that means you're just hanging around her so that you can eventually "stake a claim" on her. So not friendship, after all...

I think if I said it to someone, I'd be flirting. But if someone said it to me I'd probably be paranoid they were patronising me so I see your predicament.

Yeah really hoping she wasn’t patronising me it was all very happy and laughing chat at the time. I had made a silly mistake of sorts, caused her to laugh then that’s when she said it.

I’ve said this to male friends before that I have no feelings for other than plantonic, I could never say this to someone I had secret feelings for.

Yes, I think that sounds like she is comfortable and happy around you so I would not overthink it. More to the point to be a steady presence and like you say, don’t rush anything at all if she has just come out of a marriage. Just keep doing what you are doing for the next few months. It’s not an insult and I would not see it as patronising, more like making you feel at ease with having made whatever silly mistake.

I would interpret it that she is very fond of you and feels safe with you. It probably indicates that now is not the right time to be making a move.

But people heal from relationships, and feelings change. Just make sure you continue to be reliably there for her, but also make sure it's not just because you want to start a relationship with her. People are very quick to sense when someone is just out for what they can get in the future.

Amusing.

If you’re not sure it wasn’t a compliment. But it’s a weird one it could have been a try but not obvious attempt. Kids at school age 5 only use cute for babies or younger kids and it’s not really a well used term now for adults, unless your talking about clothes.

I was called cute this week by a Year 11 pupil. I was accepting a prize for something I’d won in a minor school competition and she’d commented “she’s so cute!” to one of the other teachers. We get on well, I took it as a compliment.