A woman called me too cute what does this mean.

[Sunweather]

Keep in mind we are in late 30s….a woman I like (I am male) we have been friends for a while but often wondered if there is more. I’m terrible at reading her. We make each other laugh a lot and recently she said ‘you are too cute’

women on here please what’s your read on this? I don’t won’t to be her big cuddly teddy bear cute…..unsure what she meant.

I’ve used that phrase for men I do fancy and men I don’t fancy, so honestly do not overthink this as you can’t tell anything from this 1 phrase.

What would you have liked to have done to women that you didn’t because you were following ‘the rules’? Would love to know.

Ok thank you.

Cute means she’s fond of you. Whether that translates to thinks you’re hot too, well you’ll have to ask her. No-one else knows what’s she’s thinking

Which rules?

Ask her?

I will. She has recently come out of a marriage (zero to do with me) so I am being respectful of that and cautious hence not pushing too hard or too soon to ask her if she has feelings for me as I do for her.

Was keen really to understand if women use too cute or such like to refer to men they like / fancy / want more from etc.

This 'cute' comment may not mean much one way or the other. Some people say 'cute' all the time. If you are romantically interested in her, ask her if she'd like to come on a date with you. You don't need to know exactly how interested she is at this stage. Put your cards on the table and your heart on your sleeve!

@Sunweather "Cute" isn't a description I'd use for anyone to be honest (except perhaps a kitten) but I know a lot of younger people use it frequently, fuelled by social media. Did she look sort of coy or flirtatious when she said it? Or was she sort of making a "friendship" barrier?

I think it matters what had just happened when she said it - had you just said or done something in particular? I find it quite an intimate thing to say actually, I wouldn’t just say it to anyone.

I’d tread gently if her marriage just ended. You could always just speak to her about things though, i.e. could she see you and her having a relationship in the future?

In my mind it'd mean "you'll never see me naked".

Sorry.

It depends on the context and how it was said - it could mean any number of things. I'm sure you already know this, but much as we can all give you our opinions only she can answer fpr certain! I imagine she's very wary of jumping into anything right now, so keep going as you are for now and see how things develop. Good luck 😊

If she’s recently come out of a relationship then I would back off a bit.

She may either not be in the right head space for liking anyone else right now or use you as a temporary distraction - either way, you’ll end up getting hurt.

Focus on finding someone else and if in 6 months time you still like her, then pursue it.

If she is just out of a relationship, I’d encourage you just enjoy her company and see what develops.

Just look out for those buying signals but don’t push anything meanwhile.

good luck.

As you can see from the responses on here, there are mixed views on what this might mean. Personally, I wouldn't automatically assume it means that she only sees you as a friend - I just wouldn't really read anything into it at all.

However, if she's just come out of a marriage, she may be in a bit of a messed up place for dating in any case. Even if it has been an amicable split and all very civilised, she may well not want to rush into something else - or she may rush into something in a rebound kind of way and then regret it. So, if you are interested in more, it's probably sensible to take it very slowly indeed. But I'm glad you posted here, OP. I also like it when male posters pop up and help female posters try to understand something a guy has said or done.

Thank you, much appreciated 🙂

Yes 100% taking it slow. Going to continue as is and see if something develops naturally. Last thing I would ever want is to ruin the friendship we have or her rush into anything until she is emotionally in a better place. Thanks again.

Ive read much worse on MN from women, this is not touching the iceburge with half the cringe ive read.

I think it could be either, but my gut is that she sees you as a friend as I think of things like teddy bears and puppies being cute! What was the context of her saying it - had you just done or said something? Might give some clues

You may be her interim man if she’s just come out of a marriage. I’d give it as pp says 6 months and then review then. No harm in lunches, coffees, drinks meantime though. Get to know her really well.

I wouldn’t necessarily think too cute is friend zone either. Her head is just probably in a mess right now. She probably enjoys your company so that’s good.

I assumed you were work colleagues. Luckily you’re not (or don’t seem to be).

She doesn't fancy you and is letting you know this.

That wasnt cringe though. It was concerning.

I’d say it’s an indication she doesn’t see you in the same way you might see her.

We are not work colleagues.

Id see that as she sees you like a little brother