Feeling sad today - love after 30?

[Twoshoesnewshoes]

Feeling sad for DD today.
she had been seeing someone whom I think she was very keen on - I asked last night and she simply said she wasn’t seeing him anymore.
she is 31, all of her friends are getting married, she has been a bridesmaid seven times in the past two years.
i was a young (ish) mum and she had previously always said she wanted to start a family in her late 20s as she valued having younger parents.
she has a great career, bought her own flat, really good group of friends…I just feel so sad for her today.
reassure me that it can all still happen for her x

‘It all happening’ does not have to mean a man. Don’t pity your daughter. Celebrate that she seems to be doing okay. Try to show lots of interest in all the other bits of her life. It’s really old fashioned to see getting a man/family as an important life goal. And the state of the dating pool out there, it’s really no hardship for a woman to stay single.

This just shows parents never stop worrying about theirs kids…from friendships at school to relationships in adulthood.

As they say to parents with little ones, it’s all a phase. It will all work out how it’s meant to. 31 - loads of time!

She has time. I didn’t meet my partner until I was 37 and we had 2 children in my early 40s. It’s all worked out beautifully.

Thank you - it’s really lovely to have the support on here.
Yes I’m sad cos she’s sad - she can do whatever she likes as far as I’m concerned.
if she wanted to be a nun or a pro surfer and couldn’t get a convent place or competition sponsorship I would be sad for her.
but really nice to hear peoples experiences.
i think she is saving up to get her eggs frozen (once she pays off her braces 😂)

I met my husband at 30 in 2020, we are now married with two little boys and managed to squeeze a house move in there too.

I honestly never thought it was going to happen for me and now I couldn’t be happier 😊

Maybe it won’t happen. Is that the end of the world? These v common attitudes that a woman needs a husband and kids make me feel we haven’t moved on at all.

It’s young in life but not in terms of settling down and starting a family. Sure it’s totally possible and will probably happen for most people who actively want it at that age. But the clock does tick down faster than you think.

My friends thought I was bonkers having DC1 in my mid 20s. We’re all in our mid 30s now and the unmarried ones are not laughing any more.

It’s not an attitude it’s her personal wish to have a family.

I met my DH at 29... had first baby at 32 and second baby at 34.... do i wish I had babies earlier... maybe.... but i am also incredibly happy with my DH and family we have and so glad I didnt get pregnant by any of the arseholes before...

My sister in law didnt meet my brother till she was 38 and had a baby at 41 and they are doing just fine...

Equally I know people who never had kids and happy....

She will find her way dont worry

Ok, your post said how sad you felt. To reassure you I have a couple of friends who didn’t end up having kids. Despite having wanted this they are two of the happiest people I know. Life happened for them, just in a different way

I hope so. I feel sad for people, although I'm not that much older than your daughter, I was old enough to meet my husband before online dating was the norm, and when it was normal and ok for people to speak with, and flirt with others without tech. There's so much hate now-all men this, all women that- but we have to remember most people are still good and loving, and ignore the mano/femosphere hatred. My kids are very young, but like you, I hope they get good partners, and I'm trying to bring them up to be anti-sexist.