Partner living with me but refusing to give up his rented flat

[Joloman74]

Need some advice please. Me and my partner have been in a relationship for 3 and a half years now but 10 and a half years altogether. It was casual for 6 and a half years. We also dated when we were teenagers but split up then reconnected years later. Anyway, he has been living with me for the last 8 months but will not give up his apartment which is rented and is paying rent every week which includes the bills whether he has used the facilities or not. I think it's a total waste of money but he won't give it up. Am I being unreasonable here or am I missing something because I just dont understand the logic? Any advice from you guys would be much appreciated x

Do/Did either of you get single person discount for council tax etc?

Sorry but why are you wasting your time with this loser guy?
'He contributes to the food shop' oh what a Prince.

If i was a man staying at my partners place she would never need to put her hand in her pocket for anything.

Why do we women keep accepting these fucking wasters?

At the very least he should be contributing half to everything if he lives there full time. Even if its just giving you the money in some other way so he can't claim to the property.

Its a bloody good thing he still has his rental.

I know it's difficult when they've been in your life a long time. Especially when you have teen memories too. But trust me, they never change. This one is a user. And he will bleed you dry.
You'd be wise to let him go.

Casual for 6.5 years??? He's just not that into you.

What’s that saying, Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.

It was casual for 6 and a half years.

I've got news for you OP - it's still casual. He is not committed to this relationship which is why he keeps his flat. Do you have lots of arguments. Does he like having the idea of a bolthole that he can use to get away from you?

I suspect that you feel he isn't committed which is why it's important to you that he gives up his flat, rather than it just being about money. Money is separate right? He has his money and you have yours. You pay all the bills on your home and he gives you 'some money for food' now and again.

You are really still living separate lives.