I was wondering if anyone went through the same with their partner. DP and I have been together for 9 years and moved to the country 2 years ago. No children. He is 40. We had a number of issues since the beginning, mainly the lack of intimacy (like touching or kind words), poor money management from his side and his toxic family. Since moving away from where we were previously, he lost touch with most of his “friends” (they refuse to come here or meet halfway) and the family didn’t take it too well either.
This was hard on him but on me too, as he was struggling with his mental health. He is in a better place now and on meds. DP is a very social person but refuses to attempt to make any connections, join groups locally or try a new hobby, sport etc (this is the complete opposite for me even though I am an introvert and I made some friends here).
It bothers me for a few reasons: he is lonely and obviously I don’t want him to be. As he has no friends here, he goes back to see his family when I’m busy and often comes home in a state when the family drama kicks off.
I feel like I lost respect for him as he keeps being miserable but does nothing to improve his situation. (It’s also a pattern in many other areas in his life.) he says he wants to change but I haven’t seen any proof yet.
Has anyone been in a relationship and did it get better?