I can see him falling out of love with me

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Just as above ☹️ I feel quite awful.

we have two beautiful daughters. 7months old and 3 years old .

I hate my body. I hate it. And I know I’m not the person he met but I feel exhausted and ashamed.

I get in the shower every morning and before I get In I look at my new body in the mirror and I feel like its not mine. Its disgusting. My boobs are disgusting I have 2 c section scars and an overhang. Cellulite. It’s just horrid I feel like I punish myself by looking in the mirror. And I don’t do anything about it as I’m just so deflated.

i wouldn’t blame him for having an affair 🥺

Aw bless you, 7 months is a very new baby and your body has done something incredibly so please don't be too hard on yourself. Your partner should appreciate that, you have plenty of time to do some exercise and things that improve the appearance of everything but don't rush into it, take it at your own pace. The words you use like 'hate' are very strong and your feelings about your body may make you overthink what your partner is thinking. I bet you look lovely and congratulations on your new baby!

OP you have only given birth 7 months ago. And your oldest child is only 3. Of course your body is different.

Of course you arent the same person as when he met you because you are a mother now. That is such a precious and special thing to be.

And if your partner doesn't love you all the more because of the 2 wonderful children you have birthed then there is something lacking in him.

Be proud of yourself. And your body will recover from the birth. You just need to give it time.

How is HE treating you? Start there. Need to know if this a you problem or a him problem.

Your boobs etc are disgusting to you. I’m sure your husband doesn’t think so!

He’s more likely to have an affair and fall out of love if you keep this negative attitude up! It’s silly. What do you think happens to your body when you have a baby? What about when you get old? Do you really think your husband is that shallow and was onto with you for your looks?

If you don’t feel good about yourself it’s not unusual after having a baby! Gently ease yourself back into whatever routine works for you. I think you should try to be proud of the fact you’ve birthed two humans and try to accept that your worth extends far beyond how your body looks.

It sounds more like you’ve fallen out of love with yourself. Be honest, how much of it is coming from his words and behaviour and how much is you projecting your own insecurities and dislike of the changes to your body?

if it’s actually coming from him then he’s a nasty arsehole and once you’re feeling stronger you can consider your options in leaving him and building a life where you’re not judged for perfectly natural and normal changes to your body. If it’s that you think that he MUST be thinking those things because it’s what YOU are thinking, you need to talk to him, potentially look at counselling and even consider ADs if you’re feeling depressed.