Marriage probably ending, I will be screwed I think?

[polotop]

I think that I’m going to be in a really sticky situation.

I think that my marriage is over. This has been the feeling over the last two months and I’ve reached my limit. I have 3DC, only the youngest is H’s. Here’s why I’m feeling very stuck.

H has a good job and I’ve been a SAHM for about 2 years now. I only had entry level retail jobs so it wasn’t a career sacrifice or anything. I have about 19K in savings (well we have roughly that each). So I’d be over the uc threshold. I have no family. Where am I meant to go if that’s what it’s come to? Housing association houses take years here. House is his. I get I’ve been stupid but what do I actually do?

If young children are involved and your husband had been a sahd and primary caregiver at the time of your divorce the outcome would have been different.

See a solicitor. They are the only people who will give sensible advice.

I’m not in England though.

We can go on like a pantomime here. When I was divorced I was asked to note the date of when we lived together as it was relevant to the finances. Unlike this case of OP it was however a long marriage. This website says it is the case.

https://thpsolicitors.co.uk/family-faqs-how-can-living-together-before-marriage-affect-a-financial-settlement-at-divorce/

I’m a family barrister and I’ve already clarified the position. The house will be considered a matrimonial asset regardless of who legally owns it. Cohabitation counts as part of the length of the marriage. Awards will be assessed subject to needs and an overall test of fairness.
if it’s genuinely a short marriage she may have trouble arguing she needs half the equity (less likely to have relationship generated needs) but it’s not as clear cut as ‘no entitlement’. Children are the primary consideration but not paramount.