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They Are Not Always Going To Be Happy For You

57 replies

MentorChappell · 14/04/2026 20:23

People don’t exactly want to hear about the great new car you bought, they don’t want to hear how great your family is doing. But suppose you are proud of your accomplishments, then what? What one calls “Sharing My Life Story” others call “Boasting”.

My wife is working with another woman and they have become good friends. They have the biggest fun sharing stories about their families and the success of both families; they are totally excited about one another’s accomplishments. We have another older couple we hang out with and we spend HOURS enjoying each other’s company, sharing success stories and wealth strategies, it’s great.

But on the other hand, we have many friends we no longer hang around with because they were just not interested in sharing success stories with us. Our daughter was living the life in her new adventure, their daughter was sharing butt pics with men overseas. We were excitingly sharing stories of our trip to Europe, they never left their state before. Over time, they just faded out, I’m sure tired of seeing our happy asses. We tried having single friends, but it just did not work out for us. So we have found that it is better to surround ourselves with people on the same plain. So one must surround themselves with people living a similar lifestyle.

This past 3 months I learned why the rich surround themselves with other rich people, why the poor surround themselves with other poor people, families surround themselves with other family-oriented families, spandex jogger moms surround themselves with other spandex jogger moms, and so on and so on.

You want to be able to share your success stories, but others are not always going to be happy for you. I have seen this on numerous platforms: Negative stories get thousands of likes, but positive stories get so so likes.

I have a Facebook friend who lives in rural America, whenever she posts photos of flowers and insects, she gets a bunch of likes. But when she posts something positive about a “Black” person, crickets. She posts something about a little white kid, dozens of likes, but a cute African kid, crickets. A celebrity gets into a train wreck, the internet goes crazy, and cries by the thousands. A regular citizen gets killed while trying to save a kid from an oncoming train, not much interaction.

Over time mankind has been trained to wish for the worst people, his life is miserable so he feels his entire surroundings should be miserable with him. Even tell-lie-vision has society rooting for the villain.

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DreamyJade · 14/04/2026 20:28

Please show a bit of class. This behaviour borish and insufferable. You really spend hours having a boast-off with another couple?! 😂

I’m successful. I am also humble and don’t feel the need to crow about it, or advertise my life.

SanctiMoaniArse · 14/04/2026 20:30

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PrizedPickledPopcorn · 14/04/2026 20:31

OMD. That isn’t friendship, that’s mutual admiration.

Arlanymor · 14/04/2026 20:32

What one calls “Sharing My Life Story” others call “Boasting”.

Indeed. I tend to spend my time with people who have proper conversations and don't just share shopping lists of everything they own/have done/are doing.

People who like the sound of their own voices are the most tiring people on the planet.

Hatty65 · 14/04/2026 20:32

This reads like AI.

DreamyJade · 14/04/2026 20:33

Hatty65 · 14/04/2026 20:32

This reads like AI.

Even AI isn’t that much of a twat.

MentorChappell · 14/04/2026 20:34

Why is that? Has people gotten so used to AI that they don't believe in real writers anymore?

OP posts:
MentorChappell · 14/04/2026 20:35

What one calls "Boasting", others call jealousy 🙄

OP posts:
Arlanymor · 14/04/2026 20:35

DreamyJade · 14/04/2026 20:33

Even AI isn’t that much of a twat.

Indeed and AI knows how to use capitalisation (or capitalization in this case as US English) properly.

SanctiMoaniArse · 14/04/2026 20:35

DreamyJade · 14/04/2026 20:33

Even AI isn’t that much of a twat.

😂😂

Arlanymor · 14/04/2026 20:36

MentorChappell · 14/04/2026 20:35

What one calls "Boasting", others call jealousy 🙄

No, they are different words, meaning different things.

jellyfish798 · 14/04/2026 20:36

Fake post, AI gen

WerewolfOfLoudon · 14/04/2026 20:41

MentorChappell · 14/04/2026 20:35

What one calls "Boasting", others call jealousy 🙄

And you don't get enough satisfaction boasting to your likewise boastful friends so came to boast to strangers on the Internet.

FWIW Some people have become millionaires selling their butt pics to men overseas. Sounds like you're jealous "their daughter" is more attractive than yours. See how that works?

Hatty65 · 14/04/2026 20:43

I hope you are not a 'real' writer.

Honestly, that was so badly written.

TwistedWonder · 14/04/2026 20:54

The wealthiest people I know are humble and classy. No one likes a bragger and it’s normally the empty vessels that make the most noise.

Anyone remember the couple okayed by Harry Enfield and Kathy Burke - Considerably richer than yow? Suddenly remembered them for some reason 😘

Feelingworried26 · 14/04/2026 21:03

It does sound like AI but maybe generated from a genuine post? Hard to know why a human being who has lined up several people to boast to for hours on end would need to complain to Mumsnet that not everyone enjoys listening.

PottingBench · 14/04/2026 21:44

Who would have thought that some people might not want to spend hours sharing wealth strategies. Just not interested apparently. No accounting for folk.

This OP explains why America voted for Trump. Twice.

GumballsAndGobstoppers · 14/04/2026 21:47

How tedious. You have lost friends because you are boring and superior. Nothing to do with success

NoYouCantComeToTheWedding · 14/04/2026 21:55

I really dislike braggy people. I'm on Team Butt Pics!

Whowhatwerewolf · 14/04/2026 21:58

I don't think it's AI as it's too poorly written (plain instead of plane for example). It is very odd, though.

WerewolfOfLoudon · 14/04/2026 22:24

Whowhatwerewolf · 14/04/2026 21:58

I don't think it's AI as it's too poorly written (plain instead of plane for example). It is very odd, though.

Yet they claim to be a "real writer".

@DreamyJade nailed it.

DreamyJade · 14/04/2026 22:28

WerewolfOfLoudon · 14/04/2026 22:24

Yet they claim to be a "real writer".

@DreamyJade nailed it.

A real writer? Maybe in the same way Donald Trump writes his tweets.

moderate · 15/04/2026 00:02

This past 3 months I learned why the rich surround themselves with other rich people, why the poor surround themselves with other poor people, families surround themselves with other family-oriented families, spandex jogger moms surround themselves with other spandex jogger moms, and so on and so on.

These past 3 minutes I learned why the insufferable surround themselves with other insufferable people, whereas the humble surround themselves with other humble people.

AspiringChatBot · 15/04/2026 00:12

It sounds like you didn't have anything in common with the friends who ended up distancing themselves - e.g., they wanted to let their daughter do her own thing without pressure, and weren't personally interested in foreign travel. It's probably better as you said to look for friends that share some of your interests, but Occam's Razor says it has nothing to do with jealousy. People would potentially be jealous of others who have what they themselves want, not those who have and talk about what they don't want.

Fizzysister · 15/04/2026 00:13

Wowsers 😂