Ex boyfriend has text to talk….whats normal in this scenario?

[CuppaT4]

What do you consider a normal response to this scenario?
in a relationship of around 7 months with a new boyfriend.
ex boyfriend (split up a year ago) text me out of the blue asking to meet to talk.
told new boyfriend ex text. I have no interest in meeting or responding so haven’t replied.

if this was you at either sides of this scenario- what’s a normal response?

im so used to jealous men I’ve lost sight of what’s a reasonable response

A normal response would be to reply "sorry not interested "

Don’t know why you told the current one. Should have just deleted and ignored.

Time to block. He'd like some sex and/or attention.

It’s ok to tell the new one.
Perhaps tell old one that you’ve moved on, and don’t feel that there are any unresolved issues, and wish him well.

I would be curious as to what he wants to talk about I have to say.

If I had no interest in meeting ex, I probably would have just deleted the text and forgotten about it. I wouldn't have told current boyfriend, why would you? I wouldn't expect current boyfriend to be jealous though if you've said quite clearly that you're not interested or replying to ex.

Me too, I'd want to know what he wanted and why he wants it now months later. I wouldn't necessarily agree to meet but I'd ask him what he wanted.

If I was the new squeeze, I'd probably wonder why you told me tbh. I might wonder if you're trying to provoke a response.

If he doesn't seem worried about it, that's a green flag in my book.

As long as you're not interested in the ex and aren't intending to reconnect, it's a non-issue.

Ask him what he wants
if it’s not to tell you he’s possibly given you an STI or something as important as that then tell him you’re not interested

I’d text back “what do you want to talk about?”

I dunno why people are saying to answer the ex and find out what he wants - that will create an issue.

If it's an STD he can say that by message. It's most likely he's after a shag.

Why would you tell the current boyfriend? That’s just weird.

Unless he'd been an absolute twat to me, I wouldn't completely ignore. I would reply saying:

Hi, I don't think there's anything to be gained for either of us from meeting up, and I have no wish to stay in contact with you, all the best.

That's all it takes. There's no need to completely ignore someone. It's better to just set things straight and be really clear, or he may keep trying.

EDIT: Also, I'm not sure why people think she should be hiding it from her current boyfriend? Me and DP talk about everything, if my ex had text me, I'd mention it. Other than anything else, he could help me decide what to reply! We're not children, there's no need to hide things.

I’d say most likely looking a shag, I’m not interested in him, he’s not a good person.
told new boyfriend because I like to be honest and better to not hide things

And have told ex before I’m not interested in keeping contact.

Block then.

I'd have told new BF.

I'd have told exBF to fuck off.

Reply that he has already been told he is not to contact you and any further attempts will be reported as the harassment it is.

Surprised at how many posters would be interested in a man's words 😄 he'll be wanting sex (as confirmed by OP), emotional labour or attention, or all three.

Has new bf been funny about it?

I am surprised by people who think telling the new boyfriend was weird. OP, since you asked what a normal relationship with a man who is not a jealous type looks like, here it is: in a normal, trusting relationship with a reasonable and loving person, you would absolutely feel free to share everything. And the normal reaction from a new man is to ask you how you are feeling, what you want to do and whether you need any support.
In terms of what to reply to your ex .. I'd be inclined to say there isn't anything you need to discuss and if he thinks there is something I need to know (i.e. health concern which affects you) then he can forward information on a text. And leave it at that.

No he was actually good about it which is a first for me as all my exes have been very jealous

Green flag.

im so used to jealous men I’ve lost sight of what’s a reasonable response

How did your boyfriend respond?

Are you asking how you should respond or what is a reasonable response from your boyfriend because your ex contacted you.

Your response to ex is either ignore or respond what do you want or I'm not interested in communicating with you.

Your boyfriends response should be thanks for letting me know or meh.

Tell ex to sod off and block him.

Best option is no contact at all he is your ex for a reason,
You have moved on, any contact gives them the opportunity of re-kindling something from nothing