Is he coming back?

[anon990]

This might sound like I’m a bit crazy and even immature but basically I met this amazing guy in 2024. He was so good to me in every way. I messed it up and broke up with him but still talked to eachother now and again, in October he wanted to see me again so we did… and then he slowly drifted away told me he couldn’t see me anymore and wasn’t happy with himself. I think im anxious attached or something because I can’t let it go? Anyways he blocked me on everything expect instagram and I’ve requested to follow him a few times he just doesn’t accept it but doesn’t block the account either? Idk it gives me some kind of hope that he might give me another chance. Please don’t be rude to me.

You need to let him go and let him get on with his life u can't just dump someone then try and get them back you had your chance !!!!

I literally asked for people not to be rude

No, he won't be back. He's not interested in you and he has politely told you so.

But why not block my insta I don’t get that part

Why should he? He's not thinking about you, he's getting on with his life. You should do the same.

No, he's not coming back. For your own sake put this relationship behind you.

He’s clearly communicating he does not want to get back with you. It’s not a good situation if you think someone is interested unless they block you. Let him go and move on.

He hasn't accepted your request; why would he bother blocking you?

He probably hasn’t noticed! I have been on Instagram for years and I literally have no idea who is following me or has requested to follow me. He’s not interested. Let it go. Him not having blocked him you on Instagram isn’t some secret signal he’s still into you.

He has definitely seen the requests as his pic has been changed etc just find it really hard to let it go as he was so nice and I was not in a good place

No one is being rude ! Sometimes there is no point beating round the bush and this post is one of those times u clearly want him and he .clearly is getting on with his life ! Not being blocked by someone on socials means nothing !

No one can do anything about this but you. He’s made his lack of interest extremely plain. Whether he’s ‘nice’ or not is irrelevant.

Because he's an adult.

Adults just tend to continue going through life without feeling the need to block people they can happily ignore.

Ok, he's seen the requests and not acccepted them. That tells you he's not interested. I don't know what else you expect people to say.

In my experience, men who want to be with you don't play games or give mixed messages - they call, they text, they ask you out. Any man who is not doing this is just not interested.

Sorry hon - he's moved on. You now need to.

No it doesnt look like he is coming back. You could take the bull by the horns and send him a message saying you're sorry you broke up with him and you'd like to see him again (I wouldn't advise doing this). But it will probably only make you feel worse. I think that's it.

stop stalking him and move on

No, he isn’t coming back. He hasn’t blocked you because he’s indifferent to you, it’s just not on his radar to make a statement.

My relationship with my ex ended ten months ago and I literally never want to see him or speak to him again. I feel no need to block him whatsoever. I don't know why I would. He is irrelevant to me.

I think he’s found someone new I just learnt but I seen him on hinge less than a month ago so has to be very new.. that hurts tho I wish I didn’t fuck it up

I think you are falling for the “mirroring fallacy” (at least I think it’s called that). Because you are thinking about him a lot and reading something meaningful into the non-blocking, you are assuming he is in the mirror situation of thinking about you equally and sending you a signal. But actually, that’s a fantasy you have created in your own head. You’ve stated the objective facts here 1) he told you he wasn’t interested, 2) he blocked you in various places, 3) he’s ignored your Instagram requests. You need to look at those facts, not the story you’ve built in your imagination.

Girl you are making stuff up in your head. If a man wants you he will let you know. You're reading magical signals that don't exist.

I think you need to see it a different way- you tried two times to make something work and for him, it just didn’t click.

I know it’s hard but you need to move on for yourself and for him. Stop hoping and expecting him to come back.

The best thing you can do is block him. I know it will be hard but it will stop you constantly checking his page.

I think you should work on yourself, be single for a while and try focus on finding ways to ease your anxiety.

As you are finding out with this bloke...

Asking ain't getting.