DD is late teen. I’m not going to go into too much detail as this is obviously outing.
18 months ago she reduced contact with me. She very much sided with her father over the divorce settlement outcome, which was a conversation she should never have been part of.
I have always protected her from the coercive control of her father, that has backfired massively.
Things have slowly improved. There’s a family event this summer that she knows about. I’ve given her the option of being involved as much or as little as she would like.
She came to see me yesterday. We spoke about lots of things. I asked her about the family event, she agreed to go. We talked about how I don’t expect her to just attend and be ok, we would need to spend more time together over the coming weeks. She was relieved, and said she will think about that.
I don’t know if I’m overthinking now. I’m worried that she has only agreed to attend to avoid hurting my feelings. I’ve made it clear to her that there is no pressure whatever her decision.
I’m not going to push. In a couple of weeks I’ll maybe suggest we met for a coffee, or whatever she would like to do. Is this the right thing?