What would you say your love language is?

[yh8181]

like most common one

Mine is feeding, I’m such a feeder. My husbands is gift giving

I like acts of service. Verbal affirmations are lovely as are physical but everyday actions are always better. But this isn’t big acts of love or gifts. It’s the day to day grind-like squeezing out the last of the toothpaste and putting it on my toothbrush. Or rushing out with an umbrella to pick me up on the rare occasion when I’ve had my hair done and it’s raining. Or going to the shops and picking up up all the Tena pads when I’ve got a horrible cold and pissing myself with constant sneezing. Or dropping stuff off at work for me if I’ve forgotten something important. Just the kind appreciation. It makes the difficult, challenging times easier to muddle through.

Shagging.

Yes agree it is a load of utter nonsense

First three posts nail it

It's just saying your preferences. Communication isn't new. Saying 'I like it when you say/do that' isn't new. You use (normal) language to express those preferences. The preferences themselves aren't a language. e.g. Liking your partner to cook for you isn't a 'language'. It's just a new, wanky name for something that always existed.

Sending funny reels 🤣🤣

So, leaving aside the 'wanky' language, it's a useful concept to describe what kind of behaviours from a partner make you feel love for them.

For me that would be non-sexual physical touch, flirtation and small but meaningful gifts - a small bunch of flowers or something home made.

Definitely leaving me the fuck alone

Eh

Rhyming slang?

Not using phrases like ‘love language’

But "acts of service" aren't a language to show love. Cleaning the house doesn't deserve my gratitude. It's the bare fucking minimum for sharing a residence. I don't feel thankful and loved when the adult who shares our mortgage picks up his clothes and washes them. "Words of affirmation"?! Do people really need to explain that they need to hear kind things or recognition? I am endlessly baffled that this has become a thing. It sounds like a basic list of rules for toddlers in a nursery who are yet to learn basic manners.

The bar for relationships is currently magma-coated.