i find myself increasingly frustrated by the relationship I’ve been in for a year. We meet at the weekends only and during the weekend contact consists of good morning / good night texts and not much more. I feel like I put more effort than him in initiating contact and with gestures including gifts. I just have spent 1k on him on clothes and shoes etc over the year and other than birthdays Christmas or Valentine’s Day he hasn’t bought me so much as a bunch of flowers ( and I have asked ).
He’s usually better in person when we meet up, however the last couple of weeks he’s been disengaged and when I mentioned it he said he is stressed and it’s nothing to do with me, but I am really starting to feel the imbalance in the relationship and it’s making me unhappy and flat.
When he comes to my place, I make breakfast and make sure he’s comfortable but when I’m at his he doesn’t offer me so much as a drink when I arrive, and he always asks me to bring him something small from the shop and doesn’t offer to pay me back. He tells me what to wear when we go out to public places and I’ve paid for dinner the last 3 times we’ve been out as he said he’s struggling with money.
I posted a year ago before we were official and Mumsnet advice was that I am with a low effort man and I should bin him.
wish I had listened. So I messaged him last night at 6pm and didn’t hear back until 12am ( a regular occurrence during the week) and he said he was sleeping. I have told him that I feel I am putting in more effort to us and it’s making me unhappy. Now I’m waiting for a response.