Partner doesn’t want children

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I am with a man I love and see my future with- marriage, buying a house etc. He’s an amazing man.

He has 4 children already and I have 2 (none together). We recently spoke about children and he said it’s highly likely he won’t want another. He said it isn’t a hard no but right now he feels that there are more cons than pros to another baby therefore he probably won’t want one in the future.

I Always wanted 3 children, and am now not sure what to do. I’m going to assume he won’t want children, so do I leave the man I see myself spending my life with to potentially have a baby with someone else? Or do I chose him as I am lucky enough to have 2 healthy amazing children already?

So you have 2, he has 6 and thats not enough?

How old are you? How old is he? and how old are all the current dc?

I definitely don’t think all children from single parent families are traumatised, far from it. However I do think blending 2 kids with 4 new siblings and then introducing a new baby into the mix is really pushing it , for all involved

Ditch the really amazing man that you love and priotitise having a third baby with someone else. You may or may not find another lovely man (it's tough out there, so probably not) but I'm sure you can find one to inseminate you. You may or may not end up being a single parent but at least you'll have a third baby. I'm sure your two existing kids will be absolutely thrilled with the bundle of joy too.

He sounds very sensible

The number of children you have is your prerogative to decide together.
Considerations would be wether you could jointly provide for (financially,emotionally,practically and physically ) 7 children between you.
The main factor is wether your partner wants another child or not.
He seems to be saying he doesn't see that now.
Presumably tou have told him you always wanted 3 children of your own.
Together you have to decide if thats a deal breaker .

Why do people post and not bother to return to the conversation? It happens all the time. What’s the point? Gah!

YABU the expect your boyfriend to want a fifth child. Keep.it simple and don't blend the families. You already have 2 of your own. You only have 2 options- accept it or dump him.

She has 2 and he has 4. They are not married.

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If they stay together then that makes 6 kids by my maths?

If they live together but she only has 2 to support financially. He has 4.

But yes, 6 between them is a lot.

How can one man support 5 children in this economic climate?! He must be an extremely high earner.