Married men actively looking for new female friends

[TheThingOnTheIce]

so I joined Bumble bff which is NOT the dating app it’s a separate app for making platonic friends.

I might match with single or gay men but I’ve been swiping left on the married and ‘in a relationship’ profiles.

what’s your opinion on straight men in relationships being on there looking for friendships with women? (There are quite a number of them) Would you swipe right?

I wouldn't believe that is all they wanted

Seems suss to me too . And there are so many of them .

Lots of men looking for friends and chatting only so they’re either lonely and don’t have any friends or they want a sexting buddy to send dick pics to.

In all seriousness, I find older women are much better at having a friendship group than older men. It’s quite sad tbh

Yes, sad. But why do they want to make friends with women? Reeks of expecting women to meet their emotional needs, at best.

A friend of mine met loads of men on the “friend” bumble! All were married and none of them were looking for just friends, I found it very odd!

So fucking grim. I honestly despair.

These are men mid 30-40 by the way. Quite a few have photos of their wives on their profile .

I joined Bumble BFF last year briefly though I was in a long term relationship at the time.

My reasoning was because I often had our toddler at weekends by myself and wanted to meet others (either male or female it gives us all genders as options) in a similar situation.

As far as I’m aware there’s not an app geared towards males that works similarly.

I have some lovely male friends but have not had to go looking for them, it's just natural as they are part of things I do. Weird that married men are actively looking for females. Different if you meet at a hobby or similar.

@CaffeinatedSeagullbut they can have their settings to only show men and only be shown to men . If they want to make male friends .

I agree. I’m in the camp of men and women can be friends and one of my best friends of 30 years is a straight man I met at secondary school.

i wouldn’t go looking for male friends if I was coupled up and I’d be highly suspicious if a partner was looking for ‘new’ female friends

Agree. I’ve got loads of male friends that I’ve met organically over many years of working, hobbies, socialising etc

Yes some are married but they’re usually part of a wider group all v with there wives

It's difficult to see why they would be.

I can't imagine a married or long term monogamous couple sitting down and them saying 'oh, neither of us have enough friends of the opposite sex. Let's join bumble separately (not the dating one 🙄) to find new platonic friends of the opposite sex?'

So it must be a way to lead to cheating but giving it some kind of fairly pithy veneer.

Just after sex

No married man who is just looking for friends is going to go on Bumble. It might have a 'friend' option but everyone knows its primarily a dating app aimed at women.
If he wanted friends, he'd join a tennis club or a boardgames group or whatever hobby where he might find other people with shared interests.
I'm off the apps now but was for years and they are absolutely teeming with married men. I'd always ask any match if they were married as a first question and the number who'd admit they were and looking for 'no strings' bit on the side was staggering.
I'd always say 'no thanks' at that point but I suspect they answered my question honestly because they'd be hoping that I'd answer 'Me too. Let's go'.
In my opinion, any married man naive enough to genuinely go onto Bumble just 'for friends' wouldn't have sufficient brainpower to navigate downloading the app and signing up. It's just not remotely credible.

Maybe they feel like they have enough male friends, but you’re probably right about most of them looking for something different though sadly.

I was only on a couple of days, and then left as the people it was presenting wasn’t what I was looking for!

Is it ok for women who are married to look for male friends on there?

Not in my opinion

I wonder if there are many

@HushTheNoise "Weird that married men are actively looking for females. "

Weird - not so much! Married men have dreamt of a fuck on the side since time began. These days they've finally got all the digital tools to facilitate it, with ease.

They're not looking for friends, they are looking for friends with, ahem, benefits.

Last time I joined Bumble 💃 they had done away with the BFF section. Are we sure you weren’t on the dating aspect?

At the very least they are looking for an unbalanced friendship which meets their needs and aren’t even thinking about what they have to offer as a friend.

But I would assume most of them are looking for no strings sex

It’s a separate app

How long after becoming friends would the dick pics start?

'Plausible deniability' springs to mind.