Summoned for voluntary police interview after ex claims harassment, need advice

[AdvicePlease2026]

I've been asked to attend a voluntary police interview tonight after an allegation of harassment has been made against me in November 2025.

Someone I had a fling with years ago gave me herpes - this is a proven fact, and he has done it to someone else too. He denies he has it in the first place. He has also been violent and abusive to an acquaintance of mine (she didn't know he was an ex of mine when she met him). He appeared on the 'Are we dating the same guy?' page on Facebook and I of course warned the person to stay away. He found out - messaged me asking me to take it down and threatening legal action - I took it down. I then blocked his number.

I was later alerted to the fact that he had made a post about me on LinkedIn, naming me. I asked the person who told me if they could screen shot it as I didn't want him to see I'd been on his page, but it had gone. I then messaged him on Instagram and basically said it works both ways, don't post about me after threatening legal action for me telling the truth.

Next thing my manager calls a meeting with HR. He'd reported me for bringing the organisation into disrepute. They investigated, I made a statement, they agreed no further action. He wasn't happy about that and then contacted them repeatedly asking them to reconsider. Around the same time, my car was vandalised. It was reported to the police who agreed it was likely related, but there was no evidence. After that it went quiet and I made sure he was blocked from any way of contacting me.

Now four months later I'm being summoned for a police interview under caution and with a solicitor present! WTAF. It's me who's been harassed here! He is a very cocky arrogant gobshite and tells a good story but they've obviously blindly believed whatever he's told them!

I know I need to stay calm and just give the facts but I'm swinging between anxiety and anger here... surely they can't do anything further?! Has anyone got any advice at all?! My experience with the police is clouded already due to a previous experience of DV years ago when they believed him over me despite there being physical evidence

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@Tigerbalmshark @Avader yes it was deleted, before you start frothing with excitement I've already clarified the gist of it - it wasn't a 'long list' and as you can see the allegations were completely unfounded. Can I suggest some sort of hobby for you both?

@sittingonabeach I was asked if I wanted to make a claim against him but decided not to as I'd rather just pretend he doesn't exist

Ok. Should anything like this happen again you need proof. So keep all the documents and screenshots you have from this set of events. ANY further contact by him you document. Screenshots, doorbell footage, whatever. Block him on everything.

I wasn’t frothing. I was merely going to read for context.

@Avader and I'd already explained what I said on here. So try again

Why are you so aggressive?

im glad it all worked out for you and I hope you have a lovely Mother’s Day in whatever way you are spending it. All the best.

At it again dear?

@UncannyFannyat what again? Since this incident was based on clearly malicious and unfounded allegations.

That’s what got her in this mess in the first place, as pointed out repeatedly on the deleted thread. Her lack of insight into her own actions and inability to avoid getting herself embroiled in random conflicts online that she didn’t need to get involved in. But the people who pointed that out received equally aggressive responses. I suppose some people just go around looking for conflict everywhere. I mean the fact she even visits a site called ‘are we dating the same guy’ then makes unprovable allegations about someone kind of speaks for itself really. All sounds a bit tiring to me. And here she is advising other people to get a hobby lol

This is the same guy who made malicious allegations to the police about harassment AFTER you made unprovable allegations online that he gave you an std, right?

It's not unprovable. I'm sorry you want to see women abused and hurt because nobody warned them about the person they are planning to date. And I'm sorry you're filled with such venom for someone you've never met. Can I suggest moving over to Tattle? You'd fit right in there

It is unprovable. You can’t prove who you got a std from. No such test to gain proof exists. You just suspect it. Which isn’t proof. And nice try but no, I don’t want to see women abused or hurt. You’re really not covering yourself in glory with unhinged allegations against random strangers like that. From what we’ve seen of your penchant for making allegations you can’t prove so far, I think you’d fit in far better on Tattle yourself xx

It’s not venom by the way. It’s pity.

I was trying to save her wasting time looking for it. I assumed you’d requested the deletion yourself.