Coming here as nobody in RL to ask. I have been in a relationship with DP for 11y. No marriage despite promises. He is much older than me (mid 60s) I am mid 40s. We are in a sexless relationship atm and separate bedrooms. No shared children. He has adult DCs. I feel I can not live like this anymore so I started to explore work change and going after a bit more of an upgrade in career. Recently have been interviewing for a roles with relocation and due to my very specific qualifications I am a strong candidate. Job would mean being well paid and relocated. DP is not very happy but I feel it is my moment to thrive. The twist is I have a long term male friend - friendship since school (over 30 years long). That man has always been in my life, we are very close and he knows a lot about me, he is the man that always makes me laugh and is always there for me. He has a very impressive career and busy life but always replies, I can text anytime with anything, if I do not text for a week or so, he will check in with a short note. My lowest moments like divorce, losing a parent etc he was there available with support. We live very far away from each other (countries apart) but my job transfer would mean we will be in the same country. In the last 2 weeks when my interviews intensfied he innocently dropped the following: 1) clearly stated he is single 2) told me he lost over 7 stone (we havent seen each other in 18 months) and had gastric band operation last summer 3) suggested that when I get the transfer we should go on holiday together and to respect boundaries suggested separate rooms 'so I feel comfortable'. He is my age and childless, never been married, v well established, busy man, really good egg and extremely funny guy. What is going on?