Please help my anger but laugh with me- cheated on

[WallyHilloughby]

Hello

have been seeing a new chap for a few months. Had some nice dates. Slept together . He was keen in between dates and kept in touch. Yesterday however I instinctively felt things shift a little. Less checking in. Shorter responses. And today again I cleared the air and said hey are things okay you seem a bit distracted? Yes I’m fine can’t wait to see you again. I thought it was a bit odd that he said he was going for drinks after work - he never drinks with colleagues. Anyway just saw he was on tinder last night so has obviously met someone tonight. I feel so hurt and angry but also can’t stop laughing at the audacity of him and he’s not even very nice looking and I lowered my standards for him!
urghhh!

How do you know he was on tinder last night? Had you talked about being exclusive?
this kind of happened to me but everyone told me that because we hadn’t had the exclusivity chat then technically he was still single

Yes we had talked about being exclusive and he assured me we were. I looked at when he was last online .

And when I asked him about it he blocked me which just kind of confirms

I don't know how old you are, OP, but the Burned Haystacks dating method helps a lot in sorting the wheat from the chaff (or the needle from the haystack!) I think you sound switched on and aware, noticed something was up, better to find out quickly. Onwards and sideways, as we say in our household.

May the fleas of a thousand camels infest his armpits.

It sounds like you are going with he wasn’t good enough for you anyway so maybe can move on to find someone who does meet your standards.

Please tell me what the Burned Haystacks dating method is!!!

Brilliant Lol !!!

It’s the never ending audacity that really gets me. I mean we are taught to see people for what they are instead of what they look like and told looks aren’t everything- so you lower your standards and they still aren’t satisfied !

BHDM is a dating method that has a Facebook page that is run by a professor of linguistics called Jennie, she identifies red flag rhetorical patterns and signs that you can use to screen out about 95% of profiles on any dating website as well as in real-life. You can join the FB group for free and there's also lots of Instagram posts as well, so you can dip in and see if it is your kind of thing.

I thought it wasn't my thing, I used it for two weeks, found my now partner who is ace!

This is where you went wrong ...mine.n my besties teenage motto was NO MORALS JUST STANDARDS..never lower them for a mid man again ♥️

@LivelyJadeLeader give the girl a break, she's just found out she's been cheated on and has come here to vent.

Surely to see he is on tinder you're also on tinder?

Are you on Tinder yourself? I'll join the queue!

May his cock fall off. I have learned the hard way….don't judge people by your standards. Yours will be WAY higher. Judge them by theirs and when you do, most will be found wanting. They expect high standards in others but don’t hold themselves to that? I don’t get it 🤯🤯

Oh come on. She might be ‘on tinder’ but that doesn’t mean she is actively doing anything there. Unlike him, apparently.

what ever the meat suit (quoting the show supernatural), you still get some omg types

So you “saw him on Tinder” and that was “bad” but you were ok being on there yourself? 🤔
and “he’s not even that good looking” and you “lowered your standards for him”?? You sound insufferable tbh, and he dodged a bullet there.

Whoops wrong thread!

🙄
The OP clearly went on there to check what he was up to because she thought his behaviour was off. Lo and behold, she was right to check.

Funny where our minds go, because mine went to she was checking in on him, he's seen that so decided to continue because she was also active.

Not saying I'm right, but by her attitude, I probably am.

It's not the OP who's being a jerk.

Good that you found out now that he's a lier and a cheat.
Sad as it is.

Best of luck. X