Please help my anger but laugh with me- cheated on

[WallyHilloughby]

Hello

have been seeing a new chap for a few months. Had some nice dates. Slept together . He was keen in between dates and kept in touch. Yesterday however I instinctively felt things shift a little. Less checking in. Shorter responses. And today again I cleared the air and said hey are things okay you seem a bit distracted? Yes I’m fine can’t wait to see you again. I thought it was a bit odd that he said he was going for drinks after work - he never drinks with colleagues. Anyway just saw he was on tinder last night so has obviously met someone tonight. I feel so hurt and angry but also can’t stop laughing at the audacity of him and he’s not even very nice looking and I lowered my standards for him!
urghhh!

The bitterness doesn’t suit anybody “ he’s not even nice looking and I lowered my standards” who are you Angelina jolie? Michelle keegan? Come
down a peg or two and you might find someone more suitable and I assume you were not exclusive so he can continue to date if he wishes after a short time. He’s had a lucky escape

My reply saying she and he could both do better got deleted?

Interesting

Never lower your standards, as you’ve found out he wasn’t good enough and still treated you badly, Onwards and upwards, you can find better for you

OP clearly stated they were exclusive - or she was led to believe they were anyway.

He blocked her when she tried to discuss it, so I don’t see how he’s had a “lucky escape” if he can’t even be honest and communicate. Quite pathetic of him to block her with no further explanation.

Looks are not everything. Maybe he got the idea that you believed you were “lowering your standards” to date him and decided he’d had enough of such a shallow attitude. What were you doing on Tinder if you considered yourself to be in a relationship?

And groin.

Grim behaviour but very common unfortunately.

Next time don't lower your standards!

Sorry to hear this OP. He sounds immature if he blocked you and didn’t even discuss it with you. He has shown you who he is so be grateful you found out early doors rather than further down the line when you were more invested xx

I couldn’t get upset about this OP. You weren’t in a relationship, just dating. And it’s only a few months.

I definitely wouldn’t call it cheating, just dating.

I don’t buy into the whole exclusive thing unless you’re actually in a relationship. It’s meaningless. Just like being engaged for years with no wedding.

Just block him and move on, and don’t expect monogamy unless you’re actually in a relationship.

I was on there because I noticed a change in him. I hadn’t been on there since we started dating and we discussed being exclusive. I went on because I had a gut feeling that turned out to be warranted. I get it was early days and he can see someone else if he wants but all I expected was a bit of respect to tell me that before just going and doing it anyway

Absolutely! Unless it’s a ten from Len it’s not happening anymore

Perhaps he perceived a change in you, and went on Tinder to find out when you were last on it?

Perhaps he blocked you because you came at him with accusations?

This is great advice xx You’ll be ok OP, x

Maybe he was hoping for a “bit of respect” from a relationship, rather than finding someone who felt she was degrading herself to be with him. Hopefully, he’s found someone who appreciates and values him now.

May his next shit be a hedgehog !!! 😂

People on this thread are venomous. OP I understand what you mean. I once dated a not very good looking man and then found he followed thousands of Only Fans models, was messaging them. He was deluded.

lol he wanted respect so cheated? Makes perfect sense

Don’t lower your standards. Only engage with men who float your boat.

Yes, it does. If you want respect from someone, you show them respect in turn. If you show them none, and treat them as “less than”, then you can’t demand respect from them. It doesn’t work that way.

no better his crotch more annoying

He wasn’t treated as less than. He acted it though didn’t he?