Update to thread about STBX and the OW.

[PeeledOranges]

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/5466689-confronting-stbx-tomorrow-about-the-ow

I've added the link because I know lots of people posted at the time on my thread. I'll give a quick summary and then update.

I discovered my partner of 5 years was having an affair in November last year. I was shocked to say the least and completely at a loss of how to tackle things.

So since then I have gathered lots of evidence to the extent of the affairs and the lies that have been spun. I've discovered he is meeting men for sex as well as continuing the affair. He continues to lie to my face about all of this.
But I have signed a tenancy agreement today and I'm moving into my own place soon. STBX knows nothing about the arrangements yet. I'm planning to tell him tomorrow evening.
I've got almost everything arranged now for the move so I need to start packing. Obviously at this stage he's going to realise something's amiss. I'm really not sure how he will react though which makes me nervous. If I could move out quickly while he was out I would!

He completely underestimated you. Fool.

He’s a creep. A deceitful and probably diseased first class A number one tosser.

I hope your new home and life is marvellous.

So he’s been shagging men the same time he’s been having the affair with ow? What a prize she’s won

I've been wondering how you're getting on! So pleased to see this update, you're so unbelievably strong for managing to pull this off without saying anything. Good luck for the move. You'll be so much happier xx

Well done op you must feel amazing, just be careful he doesn't use this week to work on you, he didn't seem surprised but really he will be, your had one foot in front of him

Yep, I have outsmarted him and I've plenty of information stored away in case he decides to cause further issues.
I do now know the OW knew all about me too! So she's definitely welcome to the lying bastard.

Well done 💪
I bet he makes your skin crawl.

As I mention previously, you own him nothing , not even an explanation.
What A total tosser !

While it is sad you had to go through this with such a spineless idiot, I have to say, hats off to you, @PeeledOranges . A lot of people would not be able to keep their composure, make a strategic exit plan, seeing it through - while having the intelligence to make sure to have additional ammo saved in case it is needed further down the line. It is his loss, and there is no excuse to his disgusting behaviour. I bet he's sooo sorry, and didn't mean for this to happen. Interestingly, cheaters like him are always sorry. And somehow, always sorry when they are being caught or being confronted.

One way or another, you managed to exit such a disgusting setup with your dignity and composure intact, well done, you! That's how it's done.

@exhaustDAD thank for your lovely post. I really appreciate it.

a dear friend of mine has offered to be a guarantor for me too as the decline in my mental health means I cant work