Away with family, no bedroom so sat in bathroom

[ACDCACDC]

need a reality check
away with family. I have no bedroom, my partner and I are sleeping on sofabed in living room of holiday let. Busy day, toddler late to bed as husband allowed a late nap, I am sat ‘chilling’ in bathroom on my phone as have no private space of own. Is this ridiculous or do I need a head wobble?

Sleeping on a sofa bed in the living room is the absolute worst. Maybe ok when you are all very young, and all partying, staying up late. But otherwise it's worth paying for your own room. If I couldn't afford that I'd prefer not to go at all.

I need my own space so I do understand.
I have always taken bathroom breaks at school and work purely to stretch my legs and get a bit of a brain break from people.

But I think you’re being a bit sensitive.
Your OP seems to imply you have nowhere else to go but you and DH could take turns sleeping in the toddler’s room or just use it as a break.

I like the idea of having a bath.

I do understand as sometimes you just need a minute and it’s annoying when you want to go to bed but other people are in your bedroom but it’s not the end of the world and you’ll be home soon 😊

I'd put my pyjamas on and get into the other bed in the toddler's room. If you fall asleep you can stay put and DH gets the sofa bed to himself!

Would anyone mind if you just went and sat in their room for a bit? I definitely wouldn’t!
we sometimes go away as a massive group, it’s getting tricky to find accommodation that fits our criteria and often someone will end up on a sofa bed in a communal area (someone who is always up last and doesn’t pay to come!) but absolutely everyone says it’s fine for that person to use their room for chilling out if needed.
Next time you’ll be more careful about booking accommodation!!

so there is a spare single bed in the toddlers room? How can a toddler be “noisy” in their sleep and how exactly did your husband “allow” a late nap - were you not there? There is a little (lot) of self martyrdom going on in your posts

I'd say congratulations.

It sounds that you enjoyed the group trip throughout it's duration, and your social batteries are just running out in the last date.

Livingroom sofa is annoying, but it was a mistake - and it mostly worked.

Sounds you just need a moment of quiet and it will be good.

Have a bath, use the toddler's room, or ask someone to use their's room for a moment. There are solutions, you just needed to recognise that this (finding place to have a quiet time) is something you actually prefer to solve, not just fight through until the end.

If you’ve not had a noisy toddler sleeper then you wouldn’t get it. Snoring, sleep talking/shouting

Told husband to keep toddler awake in buggy while I was off with others, no I wasn’t there. ‘He looked sleepy’

i would never have thought martyrdom with my actions but will reread / review actions and reflect!

Op how long are you actually away for?

Just make a cuppa and lay in the twin bed in your toddler’s room for 20 minutes.

Can't you explain you're super tired and get to bed early in the other single bed and your husband can sleep on the sofa bed once it settles down in the communal area? I'm sure one night apart isn't going to kill your marriage!

You gotta do what you gotta do, it’s for one night! My toddler has sleep apnea and the snoring is absolutely horrendous and I lay by him for hours every night encouraging him to breathe.
Just enjoy your time away and hit the sofa or the spare bed, it’s not life changing

I would go crazy without some moments alone to decompress every day, I hear you OP!
Hide in the bathroom as much as you need :-) Hope had a good break though!

I don't think I'd want a toddler to sleep in a bed whilst away. I would have bought a travel cot and used the single beds. Put up with the noise. Also, if he's sleeping on a different floor from you that's not ideal

Eh? Why? Once mine were in beds they were in beds wherever we went.

So it’s not the actual sleeping on the sofa bed that’s the issue - it’s the fact you’ve got no private space for a break & a bit of privacy between now and when everyone else leaves the living room to go to bed?

can you not lie on the spare single in th toddlers room? Sorely he can’t be that noisy when you’re not even trying to sleep anyway. Or like a PP said, go for a bath

How about “right everyone I want to go to bed now so please clear out the living room as I need to pull the sofa bed out”
would be what I’m saying! Without a shadow of a doubt!

No! You wouldn’t, seriously?!! That’s actually crazy.

It’s one night away, OP can manage to be sociable, or can take breaks in her toddler’s room, or if she is that fed up of people, she can get into the spare bed in the toddler’s room. Hiding out in the bathroom is silly &
a bit rude.

If sleeping woth noisy toddler - foam earplugs and sleep mask that plays white noise (i often have to share with my snorning teens while doing sports). I like snoozeband as they link to my phone to for games or audiobooks but any will do

I get it, I can only socialise so much. Even when I'm away with just my daughters we all enjoy quiet alone time after a busy day. Reading, scrolling etc. Some alone time. Go in the living room in your PJs and unfold the sofa. Only joking, hopefully they won't all stay up too late.

It’s an addiction, this phone thing. It’s destroying society.

How long have you been away ?

Uou have one night /tonight left

not sure of the issue with late nap if dc is now asleep

lie on the other bed in his room

and yes be careful next time of booking and have enough bedrooms

As mentioned above you just want time away from the adults not actual sleep so I can’t understand why you can’t go into toddler’s room.

However this is shared accommodation and you are all sharing a bathroom and you have decided to occupy that room. Seems pretty inconsiderate to me that you are preventing others from those facilities. Bathroom etiquette when sharing is get in and get out.

Go out for a coffee if you are overwhelmed.

Is it just a one night stay?

As you ask, I think you are being ridiculous.

Why go away with extended family group if you don't want to spend the time with them ?

If you really need some peace, then at least say you are heading off for a bath for 30mins or so. Just hiding in the bathroom really is odd behaviour.

One or two. @ACDCACDC never answered so we can only presume one, maximum 2 nights!