Awkward date 🫣

[Scarlet29061991]

I need the advice of people that have been on a lot of dates.

I met up with a younger man and Christ, it was just so awkward. I felt like I was the one making more of an effort to ask him questions about himself. I'm not the most confident person when meeting new people but he seemed less talkative and more shy than me.

There was long awkward silences and we were both just fidgeting and looking around. He also suggested going to an hotel room but I said no as I don't do that on a first date. 😐

He seemed he wanted it to end and so did I. I wasn't having a good time.

Is it his age? Shall I only try with men my own age or older?

I don't think that's all that strange? Many people have people on their friends list that they don't know personally. Or maybe that's just me? 😂

Just move on.

do not do that to yourself @Scarlet29061991 it was not you, you just weren't suited, that is all

Enjoy your next date 🌻

How do you end up with random men on your Facebook friends list? Surely one of you has to send a friend request? Do people send them to randomers? How do you find these randomers? I have so many questions.

Nearly 10 years, and with a guy in his 20’s it’s luck of the draw. I am in 40’s and met guys in their 30’s and thought bloody hell how immature are you 🤣 so 20’s even more so. But I guess you being the next age range down from me, 20’s is not too bad, but similar situation. I think it depends on the guy, you can get plenty of 34 year olds who are like this too. So all depends on the person.

Maybe not the age gap so much as a lack of chemistry. His suggestion of a hotel room would have dried up any spark that might have existed for me, chancing his arm like that

Why would you have strangers on your friends list?

Do you have children? Bearing mind that anything you post can be seen by your "friends" list?

It's not you, it's him. If he cannot hold a conversation for a couple of hours, probably because he has spent too much time messaging etc so does not have fully developed social skills which involves speaking, then let it go.

He is probably back at home staring at a computer screen gaming.

He asked about getting a room!!!!

there is something seriously wrong from his end not yours!!!!’

I don't have any children yet no. On Facebook people on someone's friend's list that you know will just add you if you are on a mutual friend's list even when you don't know them personally. I suppose that I shouldn't have accepted some of these friends requests.

OP... please stop worrying about this.

He couldn't be bothered to make small talk.
He accepted a drink but didn't care to reciprocate
He then suggested a hotel.

He's a graceless, boring, churlish creep. And I suspect he would have treated any date this way, with a similar lack of success.

Forget this charmer. You had a lucky escape. Move on and keep looking and don't analyse or doubt yourself because of this moron's shitty behaviour.

I think its normal for people the OPs age to have hundreds of random friends on facebook

Not necessarily an age thing! Its just a "not for you kind of thing"
We have an age gap in our relationship and have never struggled with conversations or awkwardness

It’s not you - he had a different agenda and couldn’t be bothered with small talk and chat. What a charmer.

I don’t. I’ve been on Fb for years but I don’t add people I don’t know. Just seems odd to me 🤷🏻‍♀️

Just read this. Our age gap is bigger and my DP same age as your date, but he isnt anything like the person youve described. Cant be doing with whole stereotyping people based on age. I know men my age who lack the emotional intelligence, maturity, drive and communication skills which my DP has.
Not an age thing. Just a not your type of person thing 😂

Yeah this is odd. Why would you have strangers on ur friends list?!

He sounds like a rude and anti -social dick who clearly wanted sex but nothing else. You have nothing to question yourself over - imagine suggesting a hotel room after one drink! I think you dodged a bullet here!

A random bloke on your Facebook friends??
why in the name of all things safety would you add a random bloke as a friend? reiterating he was just looking for a shag

Also you can do better than someone who won't make conversation and just wants a shag.

Years ago when I was going on dates sometimes it was like conducting an interview.

This wasn’t an awkward date - this was a bad experience, and I doubt even a ‘date’ in his eyes.
This was all on him - he only wanted sex (and no reflection on you) but it doesn't sound as if he was too fussy who with in terms of there being no connection between you, but he still asked to go to a hotel room.
Also - & i may be old fashioned - but on any future dates don’t offer to buy the man the first drink. I also wouldn’t have people I don’t know as Facebook ‘friends’.
Don't waste time thinking about this loser or that any of this was any reflection on you as a person, and move on.

Yep. I get friend requests from friends of friends all the time but unless I’ve had a chat with them in real life, I decline.
Random strangers - decline and block.

I certainly wouldn’t go on a date with a random and buy the first round 🤷‍♀️

Same. Like you I get requests and same on insta but unless I know you and we’ve met and sometimes even then, I decline. I had a lovely friend who used to add the world and his wife and when she got a job that required delicate work with the public I told her to get rid of everybody. Because it was madness in her line of work. I also lock down my page hard.

You know you can access your settings and stop randoms adding you and being able to see your page? It’s easy to do and stops weirdos contacting you thinking they’re going to get a shag after you’ve bought them a drink. Lock your page down and get rid of people you don’t know. There is Facebook dating that might be better? I don’t know but surely better than having weirdos you don’t know looking at your pics and knowing your personal info.