My sisters false memories

[Dinkiedoo69]

My sister has always been a fibber. She told me many stories when I was little that scared me half to death. I ended up on tranquilisers when I was 7 !
We got on ok when she left home and had kids and I love my neice like my own.
As we got older and her need for me and my money if truth be known we drifted.
When mum and dad grew older and their monetary assistance declined she also dropped them.
I was closer to them both and looked after them in their old age . I lived quite far away and worked full time so it was difficult. I asked my sister for help a few times but it was a waste of time. She didn't see them for years at a time and never helped them. She had pots of money by then btw.
I can live with my conscience but get so angry when people we both know tell me that my sister says she visited them every week. Took them out for meals. Was worn out when caring for them . When the fact is she did stuff all.
Her memories that she recalls are actually mine !
Ive pulled her up now and again and have set people straight but it continues .

I ended up on tranquilisers when I was 7...

Geniune question: Are you sure its your sister who is misremembering?

She had pots of money by then btw.
whats this got to do with anything?

Why dont you just say - "that's nonsense. She did nothing. I cared for them"

Are you mentally well/ okay? Again legit question

Why were you on tranquilisers? Were they prescribed?

Yeah the tranquilliser thing is massive. And for you to be framing that you were on them because of your sister. Did your parents realise? No sure why money is mentioned?

people are saying false stuff all the time. The wise quickly see the bigger picture when someone has a reputation.

I was on tranquilisers as she frightened me with such horrible stories of death and the devil. My uncle saw what they were and told my dad not to give me any more. I had panic attacks every day.
I mention money as she was a leech . Always asking for money when she was younger. Once she married a rich guy she didn't want to know her family at all .
The biggest problem I have with her are these false memories. Making out she is a saint when she couldn't give a toss about her parents

I'm not misremembering at all.

Well it sounds like lies to make herself look better rather than false memories.

Reading what you have wrote your family sound quite dysfunctional. I can’t imagine a doctor prescribing tranquillisers to a 7 year old, And you say your Uncle saw what you were taking and told your Dad to stop giving them to you - so were they actually prescribed for your Dad and he was medicating you?
Your sister might have pulled away from the family for a reason.

Your sister might be lying about her involvement in your parents care, but it’s likely not to discredit you and more about saving face. Not many people would loudly declare to people that they did nothing to help.

I recognise this. These people build a false narrative around themselves to protect their sense of self - they genuinely believe it & if anyone dares poke through it they attack. You will never get them to see the reality / truth of a situation.. although I guess everyone has a different reality/ perception. all you can do is protect your own peace. If it makes her feel better to create these stories, so be it. You know the truth.

Are you in the UK? Doctors don't prescribe tranquillisers for children unless there is something very serious happening.

I really don't understand why you care? Just don't bother with her anymore and let her tell all the lies she wants.

I've seen this too. When you challenge them, they become quite angry and insist that their narrative is correct.

They’re not false memories, she’s just a liar. Continue to tell people the truth when the opportunity arises. She’s not likely to change now, so you need to just ignore it.

These aren't false memories. People with false memories completely believe that what they are saying is the truth. What your sister is doing is called lying.

She knows she did nothing. She's just trying to save face.

I'm more than concerned that you were prescribed tranquilizers at the age of 7.

I have struggled with my mental health since early childhood, the strongest thing I was ever prescribed was Phenergan.

Or start throwing grenades in other directions to distract from their lies & behaviour…

Absolutely.

Are these 'false memories' of child abuse? If so, they may not be false. Giving tranquilisers to a 7 yo is really concerning.

Is that you DB?

It sounds like you had a traumatic childhood - have you had any therapy to resolve that. If you are not in contact with your DS then that’s a good boundary given the circumstances - but it’s important to recognise that attempting to correct the words of a liar is a wild goose chase and will exhaust you. I can understand that you are triggered hearing this narrative but if you know the truth then that should be satisfaction enough. If there is one relative that is being a ‘flying monkey’ then either pull back from them or change the subject to protect yourself.

Honestly, what you say about your own dysfunctional childhood is far more concerning than your sister pretending to have been involved in your parents' care.

(And yes, as other people have said, not false memories, she's just spinning a face-saving narrative. I'm not sure why it's that important to you, either way. Let her. It bespeaks a guilt about her lack of help.

I can assure you they do. My Mum had me put on tranquilisers in the 80s.

I believe you, but you presumably wouldn't have mentioned this as a side bar in a post about how awful your sister was?

I don't believe for a moment that the OP was put on tranquillisers aged seven because her sister told her scary stories.

My uncle saw what they were and told my dad not to give me any more.
Did your dad not know what they were until your uncle told him?

Ffs, what a reply...

I can assure you I was. The stories she told were horrific. They led to horrendous panic attacks that even scared my parents. So much so they took me to GP who prescribed tranquiliser. And yes it was in uk .