My sisters false memories

[Dinkiedoo69]

My sister has always been a fibber. She told me many stories when I was little that scared me half to death. I ended up on tranquilisers when I was 7 !
We got on ok when she left home and had kids and I love my neice like my own.
As we got older and her need for me and my money if truth be known we drifted.
When mum and dad grew older and their monetary assistance declined she also dropped them.
I was closer to them both and looked after them in their old age . I lived quite far away and worked full time so it was difficult. I asked my sister for help a few times but it was a waste of time. She didn't see them for years at a time and never helped them. She had pots of money by then btw.
I can live with my conscience but get so angry when people we both know tell me that my sister says she visited them every week. Took them out for meals. Was worn out when caring for them . When the fact is she did stuff all.
Her memories that she recalls are actually mine !
Ive pulled her up now and again and have set people straight but it continues .

But they didn't think to take your sister and try to get to the bottom of why she was telling these stories? It sounds as though she was more in need of help.

She lied about telling me anything.
She wished me dead on a few occasions when we were little.
She tells people she tried to defend me as a child which she did not.
I'm sure she has psychopathic tendencies.

Then there was an absolutely MASSIVE elephant in the room with your parents just shrugging and going 'dunno' when asked why you were having these massive panic attacks - even though you told them what your sister was telling you? Did they think you were just self-generating?

Your sister might well have problems, but I think your parents are more to blame.

let me guess, your parents are more than happy with the narrative you have ‘sister=evil, parents=supersaints.

She tells people she tried to defend me as a child which she did not.

what does she say she defended you from?

My brother used to beat us both up.
Parents wete far from saints. Both worked full time . Didn't really give a toss

Why do you keep changing your name and presumably device OP?

My brother used to beat us both up.
Parents wete far from saints. Both worked full time . Didn't really give a toss

im sorry your parents didn’t protect you from your brother. This is a common dynamic in families. You’re holding your 7 year old sister to the standards of an adult whole not holding your parents to any. ‘Not giving a toss’ is abusive when a parent is failing to protect a child. Not giving a toss means the parent has decided to care only about themselves.

You've hit the nail on the head