Valentines

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Gone on everyone make me feel better.

Dp been with him for 15 years and told for valentines day has bought me a kettle, cookie cutters, and mugs. All these where panicked bought last night when I went to bed from amazon which I have a wish list on for when someone asks what I want for my bday etc.

Iv told him to send them back I dont want them and tried to explain people break up over things like this and was joking about it wasnt mad at all.

He's now in a mood with me for telling him to send them back. And the more I think about im getting angry.

Cheer me up tell me the best and worst you have been gifted from your other halfs

What did you get him ?

I got some nice ice lolly’s from DH for Valentine’s Day , extra special ones ❤️ last year I got an Easter egg

My DS bought my DIL a hand blender several years ago.

They're still together. Apparently that what she had asked him for.

Communication is key!

He could probably still cancel the orders if he only did them last night. What a waste of money, if it's stuff you don't need and don't want.

It is shit, OP. Mindless.

A box of chocs and a card is far better and probably cheaper.

My DH was saying he’ll take our DD out for a walk to nap, I was then like why, won’t it be easier for her to nap at home so you can get ready (we had plans with family today), and he was like she naps better in the pram, I was like not really and innocently asked if there was a reason that he want to take her out (thinking he wanted to get out the house) and then he snapped and was like “I was going to get you flowers.”

The whole point of getting the flowers is the gesture and the excitement in the buyer of how the person who receives it will react so I thought it was a horrible thing to say and immediately upset me and made me cry. He did get the flowers but it just felt ruined after that comment and I’ve been feeling down all day since

@Honeybadger25 sending you solidarity. It shows men really lack any self control and struggle to be gracious when doing something nice for their partner.

Thank you. He has apologised and said he immediately regretted it when he said it but he was expecting me to dig into him about why he was going out so he snapped and that’s why he said it.

It just makes me sad because I wasn’t expecting any flowers so I would have been genuinely surprised and loved it but obviously that moment was gone if you ruin your good gesture.

It also just makes me sad in that in the ten years we’ve been together, I’ve mentioned for years about flowers and yes sometimes he does get them on big occasions but if your partner has mentioned it’s something they really like, why wouldn’t you want to surprise them every now and again (I don’t mind £5 bouquets from Sainsbury’s!) - I have even just started buying flowers for myself. I think it just speaks on a deeper level how unloved I feel by it all

Not valentine's, but my birthday. I was 7 days post partum with my daughter and he purchased presents while food shopping so I got, a bottle of shampoo, a bottle of conditioner and a new toothbrush. He is now ex-husband.

Flowers, chocolates and a card here. We don’t make a big thing of it.

In some ways I think Valentine’s Day is the least romantic day of the year. If you’re buying stuff because it’s commercially expected on a given day, then where’s the romance in that?

It’s what happens on the other 364 days that really counts.

mine doesnt do anythign for Valentines. I feel a total mug when I read your post as I put up with so so much really terribel behaviour that drove me to psychosis that caused me to lose every single thing I ahd. makes me want to die becsue I cant get any of it back

My partner also gave me other valentines themed stuff after his dc went home - couples quiz ( for us to take away with us today) and apology notes with a bit where you can offer to do something nice for yoir partn to make up for it. He got me nice chocolates and as we are going away he asked me to book a massage as part of my present. He got me a repeat perfume which I hated the first time he got it so I had to be honest about that. I am peri menopausal so I am still not happy really .

You can make choices going forward to make you happy again. I am sorry you feel this way. Do you have any support? x

Why would you tell him to send them back? Jealous over flowers and chocolates that will be gone in a week… you’re being hard work.

Because it's a bloody kettle & mugs they don't need and cookie cutters she won't use.

Why spend much more money on dumbass, superfluous items that will clutter up the house, when chocs & a card would have been nice and cheaper?

Have you seen the cost of flowers this year probably not cheaper.

I said chocs and a card.

I know, it was op who mentioned flowers

I LOVE an easter egg, that would have been a perfect v day gift for me (I got nowt from DH but might go and get myself one tbh)

She mentioned flowers once in the thread, and said she'd have been happy with £2 face cream or other little bits from her amazon wishlist had he bothered to look.

She's not hard work, she's actually very easy to please.

Nobody wants a bloody kettle unless they're big on interior design and want a specific one, (or their kettle is broken in which case it's not really a present for a person, it's for the household).

You didn't think to let someone go out and sort something on Valentine's day? Why push it?

I've probably done to much, booked a table at a restaurant last week, tickets to see 'Wuthering Heights' , nice pendant & flowers & card! I had two scratch cards & a V card 🤣 I enjoy giving rather than receiving. Had a nice evening

I didn’t not let him out or interrogate why he was going out, I was just innocently questioning his reasoning about DD naps - and I didn’t expect to be snapped at!

Told him to send them back as £20 kettle and £19 mugs can go towards stuff for the house that's needed etc. Rather then putting the items in the back of a cupboard for god knows how long to me is a waste. Fyi as soon as it arrived he went and posted them back and after our talk he understood why 1 I had asked for them to be returned and 2 where he has gone wrong

I understand that now sorry, I originally thought he’d got them from your wish list thinking it was something you’d enjoy or wanted… then realised he didn’t get them from the list and he just bought anything

We don’t do Valentine’s Day as it is a family members birthday, and I’m so glad. We used to exchange a card but don’t bother doing that now our son is older. It’s his birthday, and we celebrate that instead. I’ve never been that bothered about Valentine’s Day though - I’d rather get a ‘just because’ present rather than one on a prescribed day.