FWB

[Animals2024]

I realise this is a real non problem but it’s constantly in my head and I need some advice please!
Been sleeping with someone for 5 months now. I like him but don’t think it’s mutual. He’s in my head 24/7 and I don’t know how to stop thinking about him it’s driving me insane. He’s so hot and cold which I think is why he’s always in my head.

would you tell him how you feel and accept getting rejected or continue sleeping with him and enjoy the occasional company?

Neither, stop sleeping with him, have some self respect and move on with your life. This one doesn’t want you

If I were you I’d get it out in the open and if that means you never see him again then at least you know. Don’t torture yourself by keeping it up casually and hoping for more if that isn’t a mutual feeling, you’ll waste your life not meeting a true partner and one day he’ll meet someone who he DOES have those feelings for and you’ll be dropped instantly which will really hurt.

Tell him. Best case he feels the same, worst case he doesn’t and you can be free then to look for someone who wants more than just your vagina- both wins really!

I could have written this. I just want to block him so I don’t have to think about him or when I’ll see him again. He’s a genuinely busy man so I get why he can’t see me more but it’s hard. The trouble is it’s the best sex we’ve both ever had. But I can’t go on with him in my thoughts constantly
I’ve tried meeting lots of other people too but the sex isn’t nearly as good.
Sending solidarity 🖤

That’s summed it up for me exactly. Fingers crossed we find someone else who wants us! It’s hurts

I like him but don’t think it’s mutual

I know I'm old fashioned but why would you want to have sex with someone who doesn't even like you?

It’s not a non-problem to you! FWB only work when you’re both getting what you need from the ‘relationship’. You’re not getting what you need and by hanging around you're feeling down, and closing off the opportunity to meet someone who could make you feel good and have feelings for you.

I say this so kindly, he’s not that into you.

End it now and you’ll feel better, I promise you.

With me it makes it harder to end it because he does want me but has young kids and is seperated but living together (I’ve checked her fb profile and it’s true) so feels trapped. I think if yours doesn’t want you then you definitely deserve more. You deserve to be wanted ♥️

This is the problem with FWBfor a lot of people (mainly women). Regular intimacy without any sort of commitment doesn’t work because emotions creep in.

I couldn’t have sex either someone I didn’t feel emotionally connected up so I know FWB wouldn’t work for me. I also couldn’t share intimacy with a man that doesn’t seem to like me much. Why would you do that to yourself?

Just to make it worse he gave me herpes (pretty sure he has no idea he has it) so I will probably be single forever which isn’t helping my decision

I have been in this position before. I would go completely ghost for 6 weeks.
It takes a month for your emotions to regulate, cutting contact will be painful like a withdrawal. But you need some clarity and perspective. After you start to feel you have a clear head in 4 or 5 weeks, think on it & decide how you want to proceed.
6 weeks of 100% no contact will also give you some insight as to whether he wants to commit to you more, or not. There’s no point carrying on as you are, you’re not happy. You both need space.

That’s a good idea, thank you. Would you ignore if contacted?

If you found out you have herpes why haven’t you told him?

Nope! We don’t do anything like that, it’s s*x only. From the car park at work haha, we park in the same place most days

He made it clear he fancied me for a few months, you know the way men look at you 🤣 then we would occasionally have a quick chat and eventually swapped numbers

Nothing revealing! I’m going to work so trousers/tops normal day to day clothes. Why?

Doesn’t sound mutual of he’s hot and cold, and isn’t interested in a relationship after knowing you for 5mo. Telling him you fancy him will leave you rejected and embarrassed.

My personal opinion is FWB is generally very unbalanced and unsatisfying, and may leave you feeling humiliated afterwards, even if it didn’t end that badly. I would drop this one and not enter another casual scenario

Oh and the herpes debacle, is this really someone you as an FWB/Bf? Someone who doesn’t warn you about an STD, or didn’t even know he had one? 😧

Have some self respect. You won't be the only one he's giving diseases.

He won't care if he has given you herpes. You bloody should care.

Herpes must be quite the thrill.

girl??! 😩😩 cmon there are better men out there who wont give you herpes and actually want to be with you. stop wasting your time on this man 😩