Is there a way to talk about money with DH without snapping at one another?

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If there is, I haven’t managed it.

I absolutely hate it when we have to talk about finances. I have a property I owned before I met DH and some money is due on it; I knew it was coming. However, DH saw the letter and I really, really wish I just had hidden it from him. He’s so pessimistic and is insisting I’m going to get fined despite everything online indicating this is unlikely to be the case. I know he won’t talk about anything else all weekend.

It’s part of a wider problem I guess: we just are rubbish at talking about money. Is anyone the same? And how do you address it?

That’s a good point @PrizedPickledPopcorn , it’s because it’s almost always financially related.

So your thread is actually about how your DH is anxious and annoying about certain topics/issues and how to tell him that's annoying and that he should stop being annoying about the topics/issues that make him anxious ... ?

It’s fairly clear what the threads about from the title.

The title doesn’t say anything remotely like your post so I don’t think it’s a hugely helpful contribution, to be honest. It does rather feel as if you’ve been using the thread to go on the attack a bit and I honestly don’t want to sound condescending here but for the second time can I point out to you I didn’t put the thread in AIBU. It isn’t about who is reasonable or not; it’s about issues that go deeper than who is right and who is wrong.

Talking about money is hard, it can ruin relationships when the persons are not equally committed. I would say set goals together.