Ex husband cheated on me 3 years ago, had numerous affairs which I was completely oblivious too, all sorts of deceit and betrayal. Our 3 children were all under 5 then. He moved out, we divorced and we co parent now as best as possible, which isn’t always easy.
my close friends really have the man, and rightly so, in my eyes, if their husbands did the same I would not maintain any sort of friendship.
I have a really good friend, she has been a great support to me, I confide in her and we meet up often. She knows all the heartache I’ve been through, she only knows ex husband through me.
ex husband has told me twice now over past few months that my friend has messaged him. Once was to ask for a restaurant recommendation (for the city we live in?) and second was to ask for a physio recommendation. Ex husband has no real links to these things. Oh and he also showed me the messages while telling me, not that I asked but we we at an appointment with our son when one of them came through and it was like “oh there’s Sarah has messaged, that’s random, she’s asking where’s good for food”
I’ve felt quite bothered by this because my friend would fully support me to my fave but is then randomly messaging my ex, but has never told me that. In fact would actively imply she would never even speak to him if she seen him.
this may all sound very petty but it has bothered me a lot