Wife not intrested in sex

[DadwithPhD]

My wife no longer is intrested in sex. We've been married 10 year and have one child but sex seams to be off the cards. I miss the intimacy, my wife spend her evening scrolling for hours on social media into the early hours. I'm happy with a couple of times a month but can't remember the last time we made love. Am I wrong to feel rejected and lonely. If I do suggest we have sex she normally says she's too tired and that if I want it that much I should go and see a prostitute. I don't want sex with a random stranger I want to make love to my wife. AIBU?

What do you do to help her feel that she's cherished, appreciated, loved, and looked after? What do you do to help her feel that you've got all the day to day chores covered for her?

Friday night thread.

Why is she so tired? Is there anything you could do to make her less tired?

You’ll get ripped apart as a selfish bloke who needs to do more housework!

post as a woman not getting enough sex from her husband and you’ll get some sympathetic advice

What does your wife do to help you feel cherished, appreciated, loved and looked after?

Why is she so tired but you aren't? How different are your day to day lives? Start there.

Impossible to answer as it could be any number of things. Why doesn’t she want sex anymore? Was it never really pleasurable for her and she’s had enough? Has she got low libido due to her mood or stress levels or physical health? Is there a lack of emotional intimacy in your relationship? Is she menopausal? Have you been arguing? Do you watch porn and shes sick of pornified sex or your strange fetishes?

Mansnet 😂😂 honestly OP if this is real post it will be something you haven’t done or the nagging fo sex and being a sex pest.

Here we go…

But he's got a PHD!

Even though he can't spell.

Maybe you're a shit shag, @DadwithPhD .

Do you 'help' your DW with the housework and raising the children, or do you both deal with looking after the house and family?

I'm not a property tax expert.

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It is against the MN guidelines to ‘chase away male posters. No poster has the right to discriminate against other posters because they do not mirror themselves and may be a Dad. It is for parents. Some posters on here might need to refresh their understanding about the purpose of MN. It does not discriminate and does not allow posters to discriminate on grounds of the sex of posters.

Also, the reasons to report posts include personal attacks on other posters.

The men who post here about their sex lives know that desire is a result of how you make someone feel. But they’d rather complain and pretend to be confused than take responsibility.

We don't know from your post what has happened on both sides to get you to this point.

That said, "if I want it that much I should go and see a prostitute" is obviously not proper communication about sex in a marriage.

Couples counselling is what you need.

Another man...

I'd really recommend you listen to this
https://www.dontbuyherflowers.com/podcast/the-dont-buy-her-flowers-podcast-ep-020/

Men and women in long term relationships react differently to the idea of spontaneous sex. This excellent podcast talks about how to rebuild intimacy from both sides and re establish that affection first rather than jumping straight to sex. It's really good.

I’m not sure what you expect strangers on mumsnet to advise? Talk to your wife.

Make sure it actually feels good - for her. PiV (penis in vagina) sex is not massively pleasurable on its own for a significant number of women.

@Okayfenokay. You do know this site is for both men and women? Trying to chase away men by making false statements about membership is wrong.
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I noticed last week that there was a call out for advice on two occasions for a specific male poster. Lots of posters value a male perspective. However, that isn’t the point. The point is that the site is open to both men and women.

If he truly wanted help he would have returned and expanded on a few points but he hasn't. We've had plenty of men who have come back after being "chased off" who really did want help, and they were given helpful pointers to understand their partner better which either improved their relationship or made them realise it wasn't worth saving. We have also had plenty of men trying to get inside knowledge to further abuse their wife with. Sometimes being a bit robust in the beginning can determine whether a man is really seeking help or seeking to get his jollies off. Women rarely (if ever?) post in the Relationship forum seeking to get their jollies off.