Wife not intrested in sex

[DadwithPhD]

My wife no longer is intrested in sex. We've been married 10 year and have one child but sex seams to be off the cards. I miss the intimacy, my wife spend her evening scrolling for hours on social media into the early hours. I'm happy with a couple of times a month but can't remember the last time we made love. Am I wrong to feel rejected and lonely. If I do suggest we have sex she normally says she's too tired and that if I want it that much I should go and see a prostitute. I don't want sex with a random stranger I want to make love to my wife. AIBU?

Even men who post about sex on Friday nights...

It seems like 90% of the men who post on here do so because they want more sex.

Such a pressing issue for them yet they never come back.

Women often post on here about their husbands not wanting sex!

I’m in the same position as your wife.
you submitted little info, I can only share my stuff!
if she’s in her late 30’s-early 40’s…pre-menopause? Basically changes a woman’s personality against their will for lots of women; exhaustion, irritability, reduced ability to cope with irritating things! And of course….NO libido. There MUST be little kisses, hand holding, cooking nice meals, arranging a film and a pizza WITHOUT any sign of sex, more than there are the same nice things with occasional sex. Sex jokes, bottom slapping, grinding…puts her in fight or flight mode.
also, her Vagina might hurt! Less elastic and drier since estrogen bottomed out, you need to be gently and lubricated.
for me, highlighting the lack of sex and intimacy, makes it worse and makes it a thing.
Menopause or pre menopausal is like a sickness, you wouldn’t badger her if she was ill, you would be kind. Caring and attentive, think of it like a sickness and you’ll be on the right path!
also, don’t get angry with your kid as you’ll make her hate you, don’t chew with your mouth open, don’t be sweary Dave the football hooligan and stop moaning about life being tiring as it’s tiring for everyone! some of this might not be relevant for you…it’s all I got!

Again? Couldn’t you just read the answers to the last few threads on exactly the same topic?

I don't get your point. Most women who do that generally come back and try to figure out their relationship/partner as a whole rather than just the sex angle. These men make one or two posts just about the sex. Totally different.

Always, always just about sex.
And they never come back.

Maybe you're a shit shag, @DadwithPhD

All the lolz, as they say.

My thoughts exactly, couldn’t have put it better myself 🙌

if I want it that much I should go and see a prostitute

If this is truly how she feels then your marriage is probably dead in the water.

You might have half a hope of saving it of you go for joint counselling.

Is that because within the first few posts, they'll get told to "do one" as MN is for women etc?

I went off sex with my ex partner, i look back on it now and realise i was as much to blame as he was, maybe more so, it wouldn't have mattered what he'd done or not, we should have split far sooner.

There is zero hope if she thinks the answer is for you to see prostitutes.

As they say "Once the flame goes out, it ain't coming back"

We are obviously reading a different thread. The first few posts were asking for more info. But he's not been back anyway so I'm out too.