How important is a good kiss when dating?

[Cherrybake2]

I’m early 30s and dating again after my divorce. I’ve met some nice guys and not so nice. For the ones I’ve liked, if we have went on to have a kiss and I haven’t felt a massive physical/sexual reaction I don’t tend to see them again. My friends say I’m being far too picky with that. But I’ve had many good kisses in my life and have felt a strong sexual connection that way so surely it’s normal to want that? It’s a shame because I might actually think the men are good looking, smart etc but without that I don’t really see us being more than friends?
is that normal? Please only reply if you have experience of dating because I’ve seen before where people reply and they’ve been married 30 years and to be honest I don’t think we’ve had the same experiences

I really fancied this boy called David when in my teens. Everyone fancied him. He walked me home one night and we kissed in the porch. He kissed like an Alsatian.

You can judge sexual compatibility pretty well from a kiss. If they can’t kiss (to your liking), you won’t click in bed.

My husband isn't an amazing kisser, but is great in bed, so not always true. He has a smallish mouth, I think due to having back teeth removed in his past, and I think this impacts his kissing technique. I had a ex who was a great kisser, but terrible in bed.

I dated some amazing kissers who were crap in bed. Very disappointing.
DH and I had an amazing first kiss but a totally crap first shag. Nerves I think? But it definitely got better after the first go!
Provided they didn’t slobber over my face like some kind of dog, if I find them attractive in other ways, I would give it another go.

Ha! This reminds me of this absolutely beautiful man I once met (many, many years ago). Lots of inappropriate texting was had, and my god, I was rabid with lust for him. We agreed to dtd and booked a beautiful hotel. I couldn’t eat, I couldn’t sleep, and was convinced I would spontaneously combust in orgasm the moment he first touched me.

Well.

He kissed sooooo bad. And things didn’t improve once in bed, let me tell you. I wanted to cry with disappointment.

Conversely, this other guy who didn't seem that promising kissed me and turned me on like a firework. And the subsequent sex was a-ma-zing.

So yes, you’ve got the right attitude.

Crucial! I’ve also stayed with some wrong’uns because of good kisses mind you 😅

If it doesn’t give you the ick, there are so many more important things.

FFS some of these comments
Its about compatibility - i might think someone is an amazing kisser and someone else might think they are crap.

It’s like having the right shoes.

Are you a ballet dancer? You need pointe shoes.

Are you a farmer? You need wellies.

Are you a bank manager? You need shiny black shoes.

Imagine these three people swapping shoes? DISASTER!

But…wear the right shoes for the job and…..a marriage made in heaven.

If doesn't have to be the perfect kiss, but if there's no chemistry when snogging, it's clear the sex won't work. I have created a rule that I don't go to his place (or any place we may have sex) without kissing in a public place first. (Every time I ended up having bad sex was when I didn't follow this rule...)

In 1978 I went for a walk across the field in the sunshine with a boy. He looked into my eyes and they kissed me, the most amazing lost in the moment kiss. We’ve now been together 48 years.