My partner is in pub all the time.

[drainingk]

My partner and the father to my child is on the sick and he keeps going to the pub. Continously when we have no money and im constantly left alone cause of him

Leave?

Why are you with him?

Because i love him and im scared to be alone completely i have two other children that are not his aswell

Is he going back to work soon?
Who owns the property you live in?
Does he contribute anything at all, money, childcare,,,,

Every time he doesnt come and stays at his mums and doesnt care when we have argued i beg him back and cry

Is this a message from the 1970s, or something? Because it sounds exactly like my childhood.

Sorry to be flippant but if there isn't enough money for bills and essentials, you'll have to reassess your relationship.

He pays the rent and council tax he pays for our car so i wouldnt have a car without him, he also looks after kids when im working, But he has a seriously unhealthy addiction of going to the pub.

So he's an alcoholic?

In a way i guess

Not in a way. He is.
I hope he isn’t driving drunk or hungover. He’s not a partner. He’s a piss taking pisshead.

Your poor children.
Can your older ones who aren’t his go and live with their own father ?

Why should they have to leave me because of him? Im trying to make him stop what he is doing.. they have school up here there dad lives to far to take them to school

Why are you doing that?
Ok, I get it that he pays rent and car. So let him do that until you are back on your feet and able to sort yourself out independently. There is zero need to be crying and begging. Just live as flatmates. He'll be none the wiser.

Ah, rookie mistake. You can't change another person. Ever. This is your life. Either accept it for what it is or move on.

Because they shouldn't be exposed to an alcoholic and their behaviour just because mum wants a relationship with him. Wouldn't they be better off with their father?

Well you won’t stop him will you? He’s on the sick bit going to the pub. Sounds a wonderful man. Sounds like you’re parenting on your own anyway.

Ffs another desperate woman that would rather put up with a man that very clearly doesn’t care for her because she doesn’t want to be alone 🙄

They should be in the care of someone who puts them first - and doesn’t prioritise an alcoholic waster.

Your right but those kids are my everything and i do put them first. Im just trying my best

This

Not sure how attacking me is relevant. He is the father to my child i already had to leave my oldest boys dad because he was a narcissist abuser. Now im going through it again. Dont see how its my fault.

Can we please stop just settling! And strive for more! I see so many post on MN similar to this. You deserve better and your kids do, get out of there. Yes it will be crappy starting off with no car but you it’s only short term until you get sorted

Your kids aren’t your everything. Otherwise you wouldn’t set such an appalling example. Get a grip please and stop being so desperate! Start focusing on yourself and getting away for him and stop having kids with these men!

It wont ill never afford a car alone ill just be relying on buses, no holidays or anything for my kids.. travel will just be impossible..

They have one childhood. It’s being ruined. You need to get proactive and leave the drunk bastard.