Divorced 45 years but daughter tells ex everything about my life

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I'm been divorced from my kids father for 45 years...yes ...45 years....I have 2 daughters who contact ex one of which tells him everything about my life...i have been remarried for 40 years.

I've been married to my second DH for 21 years and it still annoys me DS says exh has been asking about me. I say what do you mean asking if Mum is well eg generic or asking specifically about my life. He says Dad asks about both. Starts off generic then he asks if I've been anywhere nice on holiday, how I get along with dh2, etc. I tell my DS to just say I'm well if he asks generic question but change subject if he asks about me specifically because it's no longer any of his business. I don't like that he knows my exact postal address. DH 2 and I gave my youngest DS £60k for a deposit on a house as I'd calculated that he could afford mortgage then. Exh kept trying to integrate ds as to how he could afford house. He had been told not to tell his Dad about deposit and he said he didn't but his Dad still brings it up from time to time. His Dad has a new partner of over 15 years so I don't know what she thinks when he keeps asking about me.

I’m the adult child in this situation, my parents have been divorced since I was 3 and I’m 47. They both still ask about each other even though they haven’t seen each other since I was 13. I spend a lot of time being vague, changing the subject. My mother is particularly hypocritical as she’s asks all sorts of questions and then finishes with “well, you’d better not say anything about me to him!” My father couldn’t care less what I might tell my mother. TBH it makes it awkward to have a normal conversation at times as I’m working so hard not to inadvertently reveal anything. I suppose it feels like a variant on the “do you remember Anne who married Frank, they had the farm in the hill? Well, she’s got bunions” conversations.

She remarried 5 years after divorce