Divorced 45 years but daughter tells ex everything about my life

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I'm been divorced from my kids father for 45 years...yes ...45 years....I have 2 daughters who contact ex one of which tells him everything about my life...i have been remarried for 40 years.

Go no contact with your daughter. Problem solved.

Or you could recognise that a woman talking about her Mum is perfectly normal and your demands that she doesn't talk about you to her father is controlling and frankly ridiculous however you feel about it.

She obviously got married again 5 years after her divorce .

This whole thread is going to turn into a basic maths course now and OP wont get any help at all

I meant good point re the OP asking DD not to gossip.

Your DD must be getting on for 50 - why does she.know stuff about your life that you don't want your ex knowing?
If it's just things like you've been on holiday so she had to find someone else to babysit for example I really can't see a problem with her telling her dad?

When an OP (AI) repeats the opening post, garners nearly 30 replies.. Then disappears 🙄

Oh thats a shame, I was enjoying the calculations.

@amiadickhead
🙄 to you too

My reaction would depend on what you DD is telling her father. If it is just idle chitchat, that is one thing. If your Ex is asking her for detailed information and she is passing it on, tell her not to.
How do you know she is telling him?

It’s too early in the morning for all the sniping going on here. We can’t even blame hangovers. What will tomorrow be like 😀

She didn’t say there was 40 years between her marriages. She said she’d been married for 40 years having divorced 45 years ago. It’s not complicated.

Like today, but worse.

I wish OP would divulge what these things are as it does make a difference: idle chit chat about general life events or disclosure of deep, dark secrets?

Either tell your DD how you feel about her disclosing stuff about you to her DF or don't tell her anything. Or both.

How do you know she does this anyway? Does she tell you?

And OP does say her DD discloses 'everything' about her life: seriously, everything? How does your 40-45 yo (I'm guessing that) know 'everything'?

Mine certainly don't!

Information diet, I’m afraid. Don’t tell her anything in detail and I’d be asking her (telling off!) to stop bloody passing on everything, your ex doesn’t need the intimate details of your life.

How do you actually know what your middle-aged daughter tells your ex-husband?

I would tell her she needs to stop.

My adult children talk about their family and friends - vicariously enjoying their highs and achievements and providing support, or questioning how best to support, when things go wrong. I have never met some of these ‘characters’ but know quite a bit about them in the context of my children’s lives and feelings. They talk to me about their father in the same way they do their parents in law. I’m pleased they don’t feel awkward to the need to filter because their father and me are divorced.

I doubt that they have parallel discussion with their father because he isn’t really interested in people that aren’t central to his own life, and even then, engages in solution focussed discussion. However, if they did, I wouldn’t care. If it were something I wanted to keep private, I would make a point of asking my children not to share it with others - I wouldn’t specify that this applied to their Dad only.

Ummm. What is there to tell?

Mum got a new cat/coat/dishwasher?

Is your life very full of embarrassing drama that you prefer your ex not to know about?

I’m sure my DD talks about me to her dad. She certainly updates me on his most recent activities. They just remind me again why we are no longer together.

I’m embarrassed for you. 😂

Such as?

How come one of your daughters knows everything about your life anyway?

Use your brain lady! Can you not read??

The maths segment is the best bit of the thread 😀

So she’s already at least 105 years old by your reckoning 😁😁😁. Maybe it’s her pension she doesn’t want discussing…. and her secrets to a long life 🤣