Is very slow replies normal or a sign of disinterest?

[Brownwithcameltotes]

For context, we are 28 and 30.

Haven’t seen him in 6 years. Followed him on instagram. He followed back. I messaged him first

I am actually interested in going for a drink and having sex, if I’m honest. Wonder if I should message next with ‘Would you like to go for a drink? I’m passing your way soon for work’ (that’s true)

His response to do you remember me was ‘of course! How could I forget :)’

His replied see to always follow up with a question that would then require me to respond.

But it’s been 48 hours since I first messaged him the original message and there’s about 8 or 9 messages in the entire chat. But the ones that are from him (and me) aren’t dry so it’s confusing

I take it he isn’t interested as there’s a lot of ‘if he wanted to, he would’ nowadays which is probably true.

He takes between 30 mins and 12 hours to reply

Omg you are WAY overthinking this. It's 2025, you can ask a man for a drink. Wait for him to respond to your latest message and then just ask. If he says no, so what?! Handle it with grace and move on.

You're overthinking. Don't double message, when you get a reply ask if he's up for a drink when you're passing. Be prepared that it's xmas so most people have a of work/freind pre xmas drinks already lined up. So maybe suggest it for in the new year