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Husband called the police on me. Does this effect on my DBS?

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Atifa · 16/12/2025 11:45

My husband and I had argument and he asked me to leave the house. So I decided to take my two years old with me and go to my mother in law house. But my husband said if we leave the house he is going to call the police and he called the police. Last night police came and asked us a few questions and check the baby.
And honestly I don't know why my husband called the police, he does stupid thing when he is angry and I tried to be safe and take my son out of the house. And also I think my husband wants to make my DBS unclean as I am doing a teacher training course and I have been offered a good job opportunity. But I need to be sure my DBS is clean. And I think my husband wants to make this impossible for me.

Can I ask if anyone been in the same situation? Does this effect on my DBS? How can I check this? Should I called the police and ask? Should I ask my Health visitor ?

Thank you

OP posts:
jackdunnock · 16/12/2025 19:02

On what grounds did he report you to the police? I mean, if he'd told them the truth: "we had an argument and I asked her to leave so she went to my mother's house", then the police wouldn't even have attended. So what did he accuse you of?

It won't go on your record as you've not been arrested, charged or cautioned for anything (whatever he has accused you of). The police should have seen it for what it is and logged it as potential domestic abuse (him the perpetrator, you the victim). Good chance they'll refer it to social services, which should help you to out him as abusive, but at the same time they'll encourage you to leave him and then it may not look favourable on you if you don't follow their advice.

bluedabadeedabadoo · 17/12/2025 04:39

BillieWiper · 16/12/2025 11:51

Someone calling the police even though no crime took place and they briefly spoke to you for welfare reasons would not appear on any DBS. It's only if you've been found guilty of something criminal.

I strongly suggest you leave your husband though. He sounds like an unhinged bully. Kicking you out then calling the police because you left?!

I hope you can tell him to go to his mother's house. And if he keeps trying to come back then YOU can call police on HIM for harassment.

This is not correct. Matters can show on DBS checks even if the person has not been counted of anything and the DBS can also make a decision to bar someone from working with children for matters that don’t relate to criminal activity either. It is unusual in both circumstances but can happen say for example if there is a clear pattern of concerns which would indicate risk or an investigation completed by a different body (employer/ social care/ regulatory body) than evidences a level of risk or unsuitability to work with children.
in this case though no, this would not show on a dbs.

WinterWooliesBaa · 17/12/2025 05:38

You need to get your head into the right place pronto & divorce him before he completely fucks your life up.

HE can go & live with his mother until you both sort out accommodation. (Dk yoh own if rent?)

call the police & women's aid this morning get things moving.

Muffinmam · 17/12/2025 05:53

Atifa · 16/12/2025 11:57

Divorce is not an option for me at the moment, I am not mentally prepared for this and honestly I have no support. My family are not around me and the only family I have is his mom. But he doesn't like her mom and he doesn't like me to go to his mom. My DBS is enhanced and I believed in enhanced DBS everything is more detailed, that's why I am more concerned ...

You do have support. You are at your MIL’s house. That is your support.

Your husband is deliberately trying to make sure you can’t get a job.

You divorce him once you get a job - because he will absolutely try and ruin your career again.

Purplemoonboots · 17/12/2025 07:15

When you do safeguarding training as a teacher, one of the key things you will learn is about Adverse Childhood Experiences and the impact they have on a child’s whole life. Witnessing domestic abuse is one of them. Please protect your child from that.
Do not worry about your DBS. You have done nothing wrong except protect your child. If you were referred to social care, this is what they want to see. Your capacity to protect your child will increase if you leave this man. In the meantime, please document everything with your GP and consider talking to the police yourself if your husband is making you feel unsafe.

AirborneElephant · 18/12/2025 09:39

No, someone calling the police with no action should not affect your DBS. But do be careful to never accept a police caution. They can sometimes present them as “just sign this and you can leave” but they do impact your record.

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