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Found my partner on meetme and fabswingers.com

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Staciejanex · 14/12/2025 23:15

Hi all
I would like some advice please for anyone that uses or nos anything about the 2 sites on my title.
I had found recently my partner of 3 years was using fab swingers.com from his search history and recent tabs and also that he had signed up to meetme.com using a different name. Is there anyone thats reading this on any of these sites can give me a bit more information on what these sites actually are. I can gather by the name and Google searches that meet me is a dating site but is fab swingers a porn website to watch porn or is it actually a hook up site? If anyone thats actually on these sites could possibly send me a private message please.
i no what i need to do and i will be ending the relationship but i need to get the facts and more information before i do so as he will just worm his way out of it with excuses like he always does!
Thank you for reading

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Cappie73 · 14/12/2025 23:16

Fab Swingers is a hook up site

MannersAreAll · 14/12/2025 23:19

Fab is a swingers site used as a hook up site by a lot of attached guys.

There are a lot of photos and videos on there, but it wouldn't be as good (for want of a better word) as a porn site just for looking at videos as they're capped as very short videos.

The vast vast majority of guys on there are trying to hook up. Due to the numbers the majority won't actually get anywhere (men outnumber women vastly, and most genuine swinging women aren't interested in cheating guys), but they'll try.

MeganM3 · 14/12/2025 23:19

Fab swingers is an app & site used to try and meet people. It’s not simply porn. It’s real people & lots of people are looking for sexual relationships of different sorts. That isn’t to say he’d be successful, even if he had signed himself up and was actively looking. Women apparently reject about 85% of men.

Mollydoggerson · 14/12/2025 23:22

Fabs a swingers site. People try to get invited to swingers parties, group sex etc.

chalkpaint · 14/12/2025 23:27

i found my ex on there years ago when he wasn’t an ex. He talked his way out of it. Eventually he had an affair with someone and work (well a few people at work) he’s married her now but he’s still fishing around for affairs. Actually messaged me at one point seeing if I was interested. I’m not one to jump to leave the bastard because i know it’s never as easy as that. But i will say get strong and get things in order because i didn’t and it nearly broke me and took a long time to get over.

TwistedWonder · 14/12/2025 23:28

Fab swingers is for people who want to meet for hook ups and group sex.

Meet me is a meet up site that can be social or dating

He’s not just wanking to porn - he’s looking for sex

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Staciejanex · 14/12/2025 23:34

Do you message people privately? Sorry i sound really thick but these sort of sites are well away from my kind of world. Not my kinda thing to sign up to so I wouldnt have a clue how they work.
I need to find if hes actually messaged anyone on here without knowing his login details its guna be impossible! My heads a mess ive kept this in for a few weeks now but now its starting to eat me up

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Staciejanex · 14/12/2025 23:34

Do you message people privately? Sorry i sound really thick but these sort of sites are well away from my kind of world. Not my kinda thing to sign up to so I wouldnt have a clue how they work.
I need to find if hes actually messaged anyone on here without knowing his login details its guna be impossible! My heads a mess ive kept this in for a few weeks now but now its starting to eat me up

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Staciejanex · 14/12/2025 23:38

chalkpaint · 14/12/2025 23:27

i found my ex on there years ago when he wasn’t an ex. He talked his way out of it. Eventually he had an affair with someone and work (well a few people at work) he’s married her now but he’s still fishing around for affairs. Actually messaged me at one point seeing if I was interested. I’m not one to jump to leave the bastard because i know it’s never as easy as that. But i will say get strong and get things in order because i didn’t and it nearly broke me and took a long time to get over.

Its hard to no what to do in these situations when your madly in love with someone he always talks his way out of his 'mistakes' and I always fall for it. I just need pure evidence now and I no this makes me sound like a physco but I cant go all guns blazing with just search history and a welcome to meetme email I feel like I need more so hes bang to rights if that makes sense

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Shoemadlady · 14/12/2025 23:39

Why does it matter if he’s messaged people privately? He’s clearly looking for sex with other people and whether he goes through with it or not the intention is there. You need to give your head a wobble and throw him back!

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Staciejanex · 14/12/2025 23:41

Shoemadlady · 14/12/2025 23:39

Why does it matter if he’s messaged people privately? He’s clearly looking for sex with other people and whether he goes through with it or not the intention is there. You need to give your head a wobble and throw him back!

I wish it was as easy as that.

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itsnotalwaysthateasy · 14/12/2025 23:45

Fabswingers is a site for hook ups. But more often it is a site for people to view erotic photos. If you've found your husband, check his verifications. If there aren't any, he's probably gone on for a free nosey.

MannersAreAll · 14/12/2025 23:47

Staciejanex · 14/12/2025 23:34

Do you message people privately? Sorry i sound really thick but these sort of sites are well away from my kind of world. Not my kinda thing to sign up to so I wouldnt have a clue how they work.
I need to find if hes actually messaged anyone on here without knowing his login details its guna be impossible! My heads a mess ive kept this in for a few weeks now but now its starting to eat me up

You can message people privately and on the public forums.

If you know his user name you can look at his profile and see if it's verified, but unless there are verifications on show you'll not get much detail from that.

MannersAreAll · 14/12/2025 23:48

If you do know his user name you can also tell if he's paid for membership, however it is only £5 for 30 or 45 days and a lot of people pay it to use the cams facility so it's not always an indicator of using the site for meeting.

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Staciejanex · 14/12/2025 23:50

MannersAreAll · 14/12/2025 23:48

If you do know his user name you can also tell if he's paid for membership, however it is only £5 for 30 or 45 days and a lot of people pay it to use the cams facility so it's not always an indicator of using the site for meeting.

No i dont know his user name or password .

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MannersAreAll · 14/12/2025 23:57

Unless you want to go down the road of searching profiles in your area and hoping you recognise his profile then without a user/profile name you'll not be able to find much out I'm afraid.

NongKhai · 14/12/2025 23:59

You don't sound like a psycho at all. My exh was in there. I found his account after we split up and saw messages he'd posted looking for dogging buddies and f* buddies. He carried on posting there even once he had an affair and left me
I knew he'd not change for her or anyone and he hasn't. I doubt she knows though. These men are so entitled and think they can do what they want. Feel free to pm me as i still have a fs account. It's the absolute pit of humanity as far as I'm concerned, full of sad, wierd men sending dic pics and posting pics of their dics. He may not be trying to meet up necessarily as there are forums for seggs talk, photo swapping etc. I found messages in my exs secret email account where he was emailing men he'd 'met' on fs saying he was sending naked pics of me (asleep). Absolutely horrific the stuff that goes on. I now know my ex is a segg addict and won't change.

Bodypumpmum · 15/12/2025 00:06

I use it, Im single. Alot of the "single men" i encounter are not single and are very much upfront about it. Plenty of liars and cheats on fabswingers. I wouldnt trust him.

make a fake profile in your area, hele probably contact you!

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Staciejanex · 15/12/2025 00:23

NongKhai · 14/12/2025 23:59

You don't sound like a psycho at all. My exh was in there. I found his account after we split up and saw messages he'd posted looking for dogging buddies and f* buddies. He carried on posting there even once he had an affair and left me
I knew he'd not change for her or anyone and he hasn't. I doubt she knows though. These men are so entitled and think they can do what they want. Feel free to pm me as i still have a fs account. It's the absolute pit of humanity as far as I'm concerned, full of sad, wierd men sending dic pics and posting pics of their dics. He may not be trying to meet up necessarily as there are forums for seggs talk, photo swapping etc. I found messages in my exs secret email account where he was emailing men he'd 'met' on fs saying he was sending naked pics of me (asleep). Absolutely horrific the stuff that goes on. I now know my ex is a segg addict and won't change.

Would u mind if I pm you please?

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Staciejanex · 15/12/2025 00:25

Bodypumpmum · 15/12/2025 00:06

I use it, Im single. Alot of the "single men" i encounter are not single and are very much upfront about it. Plenty of liars and cheats on fabswingers. I wouldnt trust him.

make a fake profile in your area, hele probably contact you!

I wouldnt no were to start and I would rather not sign up to things like that if im honest absolute no disrespect to you for being on there but the things im reading about the site is really not my kinda thing, x

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PickledElectricity · 15/12/2025 00:32

It's a website for people interested in swinging. Crawling with single men and recently taken over by OF hoes looking to make money.

There are also chat rooms, forums and sex club reviews.

I think you're desperate for evidence that he is a confused little man who was looking for porn. I assure you, he did not get lost.

If he had messaged people who ignored him, would that be better for you? Surely the issue is intention to be unfaithful rather than success rates?

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Staciejanex · 15/12/2025 00:37

PickledElectricity · 15/12/2025 00:32

It's a website for people interested in swinging. Crawling with single men and recently taken over by OF hoes looking to make money.

There are also chat rooms, forums and sex club reviews.

I think you're desperate for evidence that he is a confused little man who was looking for porn. I assure you, he did not get lost.

If he had messaged people who ignored him, would that be better for you? Surely the issue is intention to be unfaithful rather than success rates?

No its not that its just i know him and I know as soon as I bring it up to him that I know about it he will throw the its just a porn site at me and im oblivious to these sorts of sites I would believe it. That's why I say I need the black and white evidence that its more to it then just porn if that makes sense

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Imanexcellentdrivercharliebabbit · 15/12/2025 00:40

itsnotalwaysthateasy · 14/12/2025 23:45

Fabswingers is a site for hook ups. But more often it is a site for people to view erotic photos. If you've found your husband, check his verifications. If there aren't any, he's probably gone on for a free nosey.

Yes I agree probably likes the idea of swinging so ‘lurking’ hoping to see naughty photos and get invited into naughty group chats

cringey and maybe a red line but that’s up to you xxxx

EBearhug · 15/12/2025 01:17

NongKhai · 14/12/2025 23:59

You don't sound like a psycho at all. My exh was in there. I found his account after we split up and saw messages he'd posted looking for dogging buddies and f* buddies. He carried on posting there even once he had an affair and left me
I knew he'd not change for her or anyone and he hasn't. I doubt she knows though. These men are so entitled and think they can do what they want. Feel free to pm me as i still have a fs account. It's the absolute pit of humanity as far as I'm concerned, full of sad, wierd men sending dic pics and posting pics of their dics. He may not be trying to meet up necessarily as there are forums for seggs talk, photo swapping etc. I found messages in my exs secret email account where he was emailing men he'd 'met' on fs saying he was sending naked pics of me (asleep). Absolutely horrific the stuff that goes on. I now know my ex is a segg addict and won't change.

What is a segg addict?

NongKhai · 15/12/2025 01:26

Staciejanex · 15/12/2025 00:23

Would u mind if I pm you please?

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Yes, no problem.