Embarrassed about my ex finally coming to our child’s school

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After years of never setting foot in his school, my ex, my child’s father, has suddenly decided he’s coming to watch him perform in a play. After the performance there’s a small gathering for parents to chat and mingle. The problem is… no one has ever met him before, and I’m honestly embarrassed at the thought of other parents finally seeing who he is.

I feel ashamed that I was ever married to him and worried people will judge me for having a child with him or see me differently afterwards. Sometimes I look at him and genuinely wonder what I was thinking for ever giving him the time of day. 🙄

Meanwhile, my child is absolutely thrilled that he’s coming.

How do I handle these feelings?

And you would think this based solely on the fact that he doesn't shave and dresses a little unconventionally?

This would be a wonderful way to start gossip about OP. I wouldn't judge her ex based on what she's said but I would judge someone who said this to me.

Your child is excited
Is that not enough for you
No one else cares abiu8t your life - you are not the centre of their world

Honestly, if he’s not shown up to date I’d be preparing my child for the possibility that he might not actually turn up…

I thought the OP mentioned he has long hair and doesn't shave, or something? Hence why I went with scruffy. Hold my hands up if that was a different poster

Surely no one will care who he is. It’s just X’s dad.