Joined FAB swingers

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Hi all I’ve joined FAB swingers for some no stings sex. Just thought I’d give it a go. I’m very nervous. Please any tips on how I can make myself as safe as possible?

You might want this moved to the Sex topic as that’s where this sort of thing gets discussed more by people who are into it. Not seen it so much on here. Up to you though of course.

My personal view of such things is that its overrated and the consequences of someone else shagging your Mrs can be difficult to deal with over time.

I’m a single female so no risk of that

Well decided to delete the app in less than 12 hours lol. That’s just not for me

Sites like Fab fill a basic need for like-minded people to assemble, as with a lot of social media, you don't fully appreciate who you are talking to for sure.

I'd snuggle down with a nice book ;-)

Yer I just can’t do it. I would love sex whilst trying to find Me Right but this site is not not an option for me

You can find NSA sex on pretty much any dating app if you're honest and straightforward about it. And then take normal precautions.

Yer but I do actually want a relationship too so I don’t want to change my profile to reflect FWB/FB so I thought having a separate profile on a dedicated site was a good idea but no.

I'm not a fan of fab either.

People say that if you take your time to weed out the dross, you can find what you're looking for, but it all seems like too much hassle to me.

I found plenty of fish a little easier to navigate.

Yer but I think it’s hard with so little information on profiles and women receiving so many messages. I did chat to a couple who seemed genuine but how do I really know that. I did contemplate having a social first but just decided it’s all a bit sorded for me.

Yeah, still a shit idea though.

Where are you looking for Mr Right? Presumably lots of NSA offers are coming your way if OLD? If not just lower your age bracket thing (sorry don’t know technical terms but I have friends on apps and seen the interest they get despite saying they want a serious relationship!!)

No I actually don’t get any offers wanting NSA…or maybe I do but the opening messages and profiles and uninspiring so I don’t respond. The problem is that the communication for a relationship scenario is different to that of a FWB or NSA scenario so I don’t think it’s really possible to look for both using the same profile. Like in respect of a relationship I would never respond to someone without a half decent profile and a decent opening message and men seeking NSA don’t tend to have those things.

Just try lowering the age of men who can message, and judging more on their photos than well written profile if you fancy a hook up! Men won’t be reading yours anyway they’ll just message if they think you’re shaggable!

How do people contact each other on these sites , is it by email or do you have to give a phone number?

Direct message on the site (I would assume...)

In app/website email and then switch to something else if you get on. Some sites can be quite slow so that can be frustrating.

Free dating UK has been mentioned on in other posts before - maybe try that?

Put subtle cues in your bio...

Fun loving, easy going female, easy to chat to, open minded, truthful, honest......

If a potential relationship is a chance then you play down the fun bit and easy going as socialble and laid back, open minded as non opinionated,

If you fancy them as a shag but not as relationship material then the cues also work.

I’ve used the site for years without any major issues. I think every site or app has its pros and cons.
On your profile be very open and honest about what exactly you are looking for.
Try to only talk to people who have verified accounts. Many accounts also have messages from others that they have met which will help you to confirm if they are genuine. If you decide to talk to someone who is not verified be extra cautious.
Don’t share any private details.
Don’t worry about positing face pictures or people you may know seeing you on there. You can restrict access to pictures if you want so only people you chose can view them (friends only galleries) or you can send them privately once you have begun communicating with someone.
When you do begin chatting to people proceed at you own pace.
Again, be open and honest about what exactly you are looking for, sexual interests, etc. Always try to have a video call with them before meeting to help confirm its them in their pictures.
If you do meet someone meet them somewhere public first. It’s always best to use a hotel. Don’t use your home address.
Don’t be afraid to turn them down if something doesn’t feel right or if your just aren’t feeling it.
A lot of sites will bombard you with matches early on, plus, there also always going to be some men you will just message everyone hoping for any type or reply. Fakes, timewasters and bullsh*ers are going to be a problem no matter which site you use. So, take your time vetting someone before you decide to meet them.

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I’m on Fab. You do have to weed through a lot of dick pics to find anyone decent. I instantly delete messages with dick pics or that jump straight to explicit requests. I’m going for a drink tonight with a guy I met on there. We’ve chatted for a couple of weeks and he seems intelligent, articulate and interested in me as a person.

If you’re looking for a relationship, you’d do better on conventional OLD sites.

I met my DP on Killing Kittens. Although it’s more of a hook up / swinging site, it’s very female centric and the men are a lot more respectful.

I found several people who were very nice both single and M and F Had with of fun them I now have a stroke so only memory😢

Thanks. I had signed up to FAB as a stop gap really to have some fun whilst looking for a relationship. I felt very intimidated and it’s good to hear that some people will go with meeting up and progressing gradually as I felt quite pressured given the way that I was contacted by lots of people. I did delete the app and am dating someone now from a conventional app but will keep this in mind if things go south with that

FAB can be overwhelming for the new starters. You can ignore the initial millions of messages and seek out yourself. Otherwise try Feeld which is a little less stressful and more like Tinder.