Page 3 | On the verge of cheating

TicklishReader · 05/12/2025 21:03

Oh, grow up.

Starseeking · 05/12/2025 23:29

lostcamel · 05/12/2025 17:12

Thanks Everyone for helping me to get my head straight! I wasn’t tipsy when I wrote my OP. I have had multiple interactions with the man at work, we were working in one office for 3 weeks and he has asked me out twice- I have declined both times. I said he felt like my spiritual twin, as we spoke quite a bit and I found out loads about him and realised, we were very similar, liked similar things, hobbies, music…even had similar tastes when we were young. I don’t know how else to describe the feeling when I am next to him- just like coming home to a lit fire and a warm mug of cocoa.
This is not a Iust. I don’t think it is.
Will talk to DH tonight. Not sure about that and not sure what to say to him, as will be definitely called ‘crazy’ for not being happy with him.

This is a crazy idea, I hope you didn’t speak to your DH about this!

Sonya2017 · 05/12/2025 23:42

Nobody is on the "verge of cheating"

You either do or you don't.

If you are thinking about cheating, then you are obviously unhappy and should just leave.

Why cheat?

FastTurtle · 05/12/2025 23:48

Leave your DH for The One/a big pile of limerence.

Thedevilhasfinallycaughtupwithhim · 06/12/2025 07:59

Imagine this bloke’s reaction 😳

A woman who he occasionally flirts with at work has left her husband for him. Nightmare

Fiftyandme · 06/12/2025 08:02

Look up Liberace and peri menopause extreme sudden attractions

TwooooDoooozenRoses · 06/12/2025 08:04

outerspacepotato · 05/12/2025 17:20

Girl.

What kind of man asks out a married woman?

Hint. It's not a guy with a good character. He's cool with cheating.

You don't know him and it sounds like he's spinning you a line so he can have sex with you.

This!! He’s not a bloody warm cup of cocoa for goodness sake. As for spiritual twin, you’ve worked with him a couple of weeks, stop being daft!

Keroppi · 06/12/2025 08:06

You're bored and suffering from a proximity crush! Happens all the time at work. You're shoved together.

The fact he's asked you out twice and you're married is probably not good. I would suggest you do some digging on his character and relationships and try and find an 'ick'
Go out for some dates and spice up your relationship with your DH. The grass is greener where you water it
This bloke could be a great friend, having stuff in common doesn't mean you're necessarily compatible romantic wise.

3luckystars · 06/12/2025 08:12

lostcamel · 04/12/2025 23:08

Not going into details, but, after being married for 20y and still being in a solid, albeit not very affectionate relationship, I have met a man through work a few months back and felt such a connection that I am frightened to meet him face to face again! I can’t explain the feeling other than that he is my spiritual twin. It is not sexual attraction only, it’s something deeper. I absolutely know he is THE ONE for me.
Some meet up has been arranged for the next Saturday with work colleagues and I am frightened to go there- because of what might happen. He is single.
I am almost 50, he is 52. Not spring chickens. I will probably not go come next w/end, but I know I will regret it for the rest of my life if I didn’t.

Don’t do it. Don’t do it.

You can think about it but don’t do it.

I know it feels like love but you are only seeing the best of him at work.

if you have to be with him, break up with your husband, cross all the Ts first and be single. Don’t cheat as you will be off to a very bad start. I do believe in love. But please don’t cheat because that’s not who you want to be.

If you are lonely in your marriage, don’t make things even worse by doing this. Be a good person and if this man really is right for you, he will wait. 💞

3luckystars · 06/12/2025 08:24

Thedevilhasfinallycaughtupwithhim · 06/12/2025 07:59

Imagine this bloke’s reaction 😳

A woman who he occasionally flirts with at work has left her husband for him. Nightmare

😮

AquaForce · 06/12/2025 09:26

They're always 'the one'. It's always different from other affairs. The connection is always stronger, the bond is always spiritual, enduring across time and space. A connection formed by the universe that has drawn you together to your true destiny. It's bigger than you, bigger than him, it's heaven sent.

Except it's not. It's limerence.

If you pursue this, it may end your marriage. There's no guarantee that it would work out with him either. If your marriage is over then end it, if it's not then don't risk it. ❤

VoodooQualities · 06/12/2025 09:37

How did it go last night? Did you tell your husband?

Luckyingame · 06/12/2025 09:47

Ayeyadoeh · 05/12/2025 18:15

So...name changed for this.

Same situation as you, 20year relationship, solid but stale, affectionate but missing something. I met someone and we had sex, it was a weekend fling and it was only ever going to be that, and only will ever be that. It was great fun and I really enjoyed it. And overall I'm happier in my marriage for it.

However, I do feel guilty, I'm said at how hurt DH would be if I he ever found out and I am worried about my relationship imploding if DH ever found out, and I don't want that.

I don't regret it but I wouldn't do it again.

In your case I would be worried you wouldn't be able to keep it to a one time thing and that is a much, much bigger issue.

Yes, basically you said what I would have said if elaborated on my comment.

materialgworl · 06/12/2025 10:03

Get a grip

osloslow · 06/12/2025 11:52

So he’s asked you out twice already?
I presume he knows you are married, so that’s such a massive red flag. What decent man pursues someone else’s wife.

3luckystars · 06/12/2025 11:52

most of them

MrsSkylerWhite · 06/12/2025 11:57

Sillysoggyspaniel · 04/12/2025 23:29

Just don't.

If you've had enough of your relationship end it, be single for a while, sort your shit out.

This. Infidelity is unforgiveable. Do the decent thing and leave first.

MrsSkylerWhite · 06/12/2025 11:59

Fiftyandme · 06/12/2025 08:02

Look up Liberace and peri menopause extreme sudden attractions

Not sure Liberace was in the market for affairs with married women 🤣

3luckystars · 06/12/2025 12:01

😂love it

getsomehelp · 06/12/2025 12:12

IMHO telling your H will really set the cat amongst the pigeons.
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Whatwouldnanado · 06/12/2025 12:20

Limerence. Give your head a wobble. Remember why you fell in love with your husband. Invest your time and affection on him, the stuff you enjoyed together. How would you feel if your husband posted something similar about another woman?

Isayitasitis · 06/12/2025 13:58

Then go if you'll regret it.

3luckystars · 06/12/2025 20:22

Whatwouldnanado · 06/12/2025 12:20

Limerence. Give your head a wobble. Remember why you fell in love with your husband. Invest your time and affection on him, the stuff you enjoyed together. How would you feel if your husband posted something similar about another woman?

If she really is in limerence she is not going to care. It’s like a drug.

Has your husband hurt you or done something to make you not trust him
and seek enjoyment/happiness elsewhere ?

You seem reluctant to put things right with him. But you are going to be dealing with him forever if you have children so you need to do things respectfully.

ItsmeMargo · 06/12/2025 20:43

I presume this other man knows that you’re married? I’m always incredibly wary of anyone who tries it on with married people.

If you had to make a decision right now: husband or the other man – without knowing how things would go with this other man… What would you do? If there was no going back?

if you are really willing to throw away your marriage for this man, then tell your husband beforehand. Give him the opportunity to decide what he wants to do.

climbintheback · 06/12/2025 20:50

Never works - get a new dildo more satisfying less trauma and expense