Sorry this is a long story. Back in May I discovered my husband of twenty years had betrayed and deceived me in a massive way. I can't go into all the details, and it wasn't your usual cheating, it was much worse and involved a massive web of lies that spanned years. My world fell apart. He seemed extremely sorry, never seen anyone so broken, so I gave him another chance. He promised (even put it in writing!) that he would deal with the lying. He seemed to be doing a lot of soul searching and work to understand why he did what he did. I told him any more lies of any kind and there wouldn't be any second chances. However, he's away to work and his iPad is lying out. Turns out he's being going to a massage place while lying and saying he is at the pub, doing the shopping etc. Now, this came up as an aside in the original drama and I told him I had no problem with him going for a legitimate massage (which he swore they where) and the problem was the lying. Well here he is lying again, as recently as last week. I've looked the places up, they are tai massage places. They have premises but I guess that doesn't mean a lot does it? He books by texting a mobile number. There must be more going on right or why lie? Anyway, even it it wasn't the case, he still lied when I told him that was a deal breaker. I am sat here in a total mess knowing I need to confront him when he gets home tonight. I don't feel in a position where I can walk away. I am financially dependent on him (he saw to that- all part of the original betrayal as it involved my career) I have nowhere to go. The thought of a life without him is horrible but so is the thought of continuing. We really did have a beautiful life together until all this came out six months ago so I just can't understand why I'm not enough. No kids involved just in case that's relevant.