Is this man suggesting a hook up? 🫤

[juliette2010]

Not an experienced dater but if a man suggested “just come over here for a drink” would you assume he wanted you to just go over to his for sex?
I don’t know if he means “here” is the area he lives or his house.
Been on a few dates for context but we are not close or intimate yet.

Thanks

Yes

Yes - keep meeting on neutral territory until you are ready for sex.

He’s made me not want to meet him at all now tbh 🤣

Come over to my house for a drink = sex

Come over to my town for drinks = not necessarily sex

Probably for the best, he sounds entitled.

Well no need to worry then

But still low effort would you say?
thanks for your reply’s!!!

He is asking you for sex.

Depends on the context, who else will be there or are you a tradesperson or builder etc?

He’s a lazy sod who wants some.
don't bother x

It's no effort, none.

So have you been on a few dates already and he’s now asked you to come over to his for the next date?
If that’s the case then yes he’s looking for things to turn sexual

Yep. And a bit of a turn-off.

If you’ve been on a few dates he might be suggesting taking things to the next level but not necessarily a hook up?

Using the imperative in this way is a total red flag, and none starter for me.

It would be nice to see a bit more effort on his part. Not only is he expecting sex, he’s wanting you to do the travelling. If you haven’t been put off him entirely, suggest you meet somewhere convenient to you.

Hook up or not, he’s lazy. Throw this one back. He’s unlikely to be worth dating or shagging.

I made a point of never going more than half way for any sort of drink. They were not allowed to come to mine either.

DH suggested at least 4 dates not far from where I lived but public before he knew where I lived

Tbh I don't think suggesting sex after a few dates is particularly entitled or lazy. By that point I'd either be up for it or not interested in seeing the man again. There's no right or wrong but you probably need to be more explicit about how long you want to wait.

I wouldn’t feel inclined to meet this one. He sounds basic at best.

If you've already had a few dates, I don't think there's anything wrong in what he is suggesting. Obviously there must be some context to this conversation. It might not mean sex, it could be to get cosy and see where things go. If you don't want that, ask him upfront- are you expecting sex? If you are also willing, then it's fine. I've invited dates to my house, when I've wanted more but also because it's more relaxing set up.

How did the dates go with him ?

Without seeing the context of the convo it's hard to say if he's entitled, lazy or making a simple suggestion. Ask him what the here means and decide whether you are happy with that. It sounds like you are not that keen on him.

Yes

and if said like that, that is all he wants.

If this is a first date, I wouldn't consider meeting someone so lazy!

If you've met several times -- actually it still sounds like 'come and have sex because I can't be arsed to go out'.