Is my marriage over...

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Been together over 2 years married 5 have two children together - 4 and 1 years and a daughter who I had with a previous person.

We are not affectionate, more so on my side I just dont have that attraction anymore I just find everything annoying. Its got to a stage where I dont want to kiss him or anything - is this normal!?
I made him marry me he didnt propose, I made him move into rented with me which I dont think he entirely did want too. Previously we have been speaking about a mortgage but sounds like he doesn't want to do that either so I dont want to keep making him do things he don't want too. I just feel like I make him do all these big things which he prob didnt even want to do.

He is a good dad and does help sometimes but then he can get angry if its too much but like secretly I dont no if that makes sense.
I feel unhappy unsure what to do.

I did try talk to him couple weeks ago to say I was feeling a bit low, just to try be open and think of remedies to help me and why I had been feeling the way I am toward him there's been times where I just had enough but he said he didn't want to hear it and I shouldnt be talking like that and be grateful for what I have got.

You can't talk to him to fix it he is not a partner he's an enemy, you might not see it right now but he is destroying your kids even if he never lays a hand on them, there will be lasting mental effects. He is destroying you as a person which takes from you as a mother. He can't do what he did and be a healthy person for you at the same time.

If he's getting in your face and shouting at you and being passive aggressively angry or making you feel like you're tip toeing around his feelings then is it any wonder you aren't attracted to him and don't want to be with him?? That's emotional abuse and it's not ok. Controlling your children is controlling you as their mother and again is a form of abuse. Spending family money on himself but then not leaving enough for you is financial abuse. Womens aid can support you op it would be worth getting in touch with them. They won't make you leave if you don't want to, but they will give you a safe space to talk it all through and tease out what's healthy and what's not and they'll support you to leave if you do decide to.