Hello. This is my first time posting on anything like this, I’m hoping to get some biased advice, as I don’t feel like I can talk to anyone about it. I’ve been with my partner for almost 4 years, we are both in our 40s. I am six years older. When we first met, he was a man child and spent every day in the pub. He was also seeing a young girl who was in her 20’s. I’m not a big drinker, and I’m not a party girl anymore. (I used to be). I could tell right away that we weren’t really suited and after a couple of dates I told him that it wouldn’t work, even though I really really liked him. He pursued me and told me that he didn’t want that life anymore and he wanted to settle down. I fall in love quickly, and after him persuading me to have some more dates, I ended up stated to love him.. after six months he moved in with me and my children, and when he was around everything was perfect. The problem was he would go to work, I would hear nothing from him all day, and sometimes it would get to 7 /8pm and he wasn’t home and didn’t answer his phone. His tea would be on the table, me waiting ready to make him a cup of tea and ask how his day has been. The first few times this happened I was beside myself with worry thinking he had been in an accident. But it turned out that he had gone straight to the pub. I ended it with him,, but he always wormed his way back saying sorry and he doesn’t want to do it anymore. I became really anxious and nervous all the time but I loved him very much. Anyway, after another fallout, he said he would share his Snapchat location with me to put my mind at ease. He works all over and sometimes travels 2 hours each way for work but due to his job he cannot text or call me during day. The Snapchat location helped me have peace of mind and provides convenience for knowing whether he was on his way home or still at work. Sounds stupid but it helped me so much with my anxiety. He is self employed so sometimes would finish work at 1pm, sometimes 7pm. Yet he found it impossible to send me a text or call to let me know if he was on his way home.
2 years we have shared out location with each other and my kids, and now all of a sudden he has turned it off. He is refusing to talk about why, apart from saying he doesn’t like it. I’m not an unreasonable person, I know that I should respect his privacy etc but this has really triggered anxiety in me and I’m now overthinking and I think I am going to have to end the relationship because of it because it has really caused a problem for me and he doesn’t seem to care about the impact it is having on me.