My dh (39), has always had a tendency to pick up colds, if I get a sniffle, he’ll get the flu, for example, during the pandemic, I got covid, I was unwell for a day or so but he was in bed for days, the lines on the test showed up much stronger on his test compared to mine so I know he wasn’t exaggerating.
Anyway, it’s never really affected our lives until recently. We have a ten month old and since around July dh has had several illnesses. Between July and September he had about 5 episodes of cold/ flu and since then he has had something every couple of weeks, sometimes it’s headaches/ migraines. He feels immense guilt and most of the time refuses to rest/nap as he feels bad that I’m alone with the baby. During the week he got a cold and had to take a day off to rest. I’m pretty sure he caught this cold from the baby, she had a sniffle last week but fought it pretty easily, tbh, we hardly noticed it. I literally sneezed once and that was all. Then today, he was in bed for half the day with a migraine!
We have no family support so there just isn’t much respite and it’s becoming very stressful. He already went to the GP for testing as he was worried but stool, urine and bloods all came back normal. I’m not sure what’s going on? Are some people just like this? Could the GP have missed something? Could myself and dd be picking things up from baby groups and passing it to him even though we don’t get any symptoms?
To add, his mood has been quite low since baby was born (he has recently started therapy which is helping). I’m wondering if his mood is affecting his physical health? He is a great dad, very hands on as he should be, comes home, cooks dinner and cleans most days, does night feeds when possible, bought me flowers the other day as he felt guilty for being unwell.