Hi,
I have been married for over 6 year's.
Before we had any children, my husband was like the perfect guy. Alway's making me feel special and treating me really well. Taking me restaurant's and buying me gift's.
After our son was born, he completely changed. It was subtle at first but once my son turned 1, thing's started to get worse. He would be picky about the food I made and got really angry and would start criticising, being sarcastic and insulting me for more then half an hour because the food was not to his liking. He would compare me to his mum's cooking and complain to his parent's who would take his side and put me down for my cooking.
Certain time's, we would get on so well and out of no where, he would get angry with me and do an emotional outburst. He would then continue to apologise and promise to change but it would never happen.
He stopped taking me to restaurant's as soon as our son was born, only take away place's to eat because he say's he doesn't have much time in the evening and it's expensive. He only bought me 1 gift after our son was born and just a few gift's for our son, so far.
He has walked out on me on numerous ocassion's, when I need him the most to support me because we have an argument that usually start's from him. He come's back after a few hour's and alway's say's he was with his parent's. He would then apologise continuously, to make up for his bad behaviour and promise to change but it never really happen's. It's become a pattern now.
By the way, he was divorced before and has 1 son from his previous marriage and 1 son with me.
I can't tell whether his using me or is actually abusing really badly?
When he does make up to me, for what he has done wrong, he usually admit's his fault's and say's it's hard for him to change as he is a assertive person and I'm a soft person but he will keep trying his best to change, just for me. He also keep's telling me I'm a very sensitive person.
I am really looking forward, for advice in whether to continue with this marriage or not for the sake of our son. I'm just worried about being a single mum, after year's of struggling to find someone, till I found him.