DH has done nothing for my birthday

[Sycomore1]

AIBU to be annoyed at DH not making my day special? My birthday is tomorrow and he normally does a card from himself, and gets one from the kids. He’ll get flowers and a few gifts. This year he’s done nothing and I don’t expect anything huge as we don’t have the finances at the moment, we’re struggling a little but even a written card would have been nice. He told me last night he doesn’t have the money to do anything he’s afraid and that was that. Just felt cold and mean.

Thank you for the kind messages.

Well, he stuck to his word and has been making it up to me. On my birthday when he walked in, I popped out to run errands without the kids and he put them to bed. He then cooked me dinner and we had a chat. He apologised and agreed he’d been pretty rubbish not even getting me a card for me to open on my birthday and acting so cold. He admitted there was no excuse. The following day he got paid from his new job, ordered some gifts and took me for breakfast then he’s told me he’s arranged a surprise for tonight. I think it really hit him how thoughtless he was this year. One thing I will not be doing going forward is buying his family gifts for him, I completely agree with everyone here that I shouldn’t be doing that.

That's much more positive @Sycomore1 😃

Next time he asks you to sort out gifts for his Mum or Dad tell him no drop the rope OP and tell him it's not your job. He can still afford to get them gifts though.

Glad he finally understood OP. Breakfast in bed, cup of tea and a lovely letter would have made you feel very special and he could have done that. Tell him this for another time.

OK at least he saw it.

Going forward, remember no one gives out medals to martyrs. You lie down, people walk on you.

He gets a very partial, very conditional pass on this one. But he’s bought himself more work for every other birthday!